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Xa umntu ephulukene nolwalamano, ngenxa yokusweleka komntu amthandayo, uqhawulo-mtshato, okanye ingxabano yosapho, iiholide zinokuphulukana ngokupheleleyo nethemba, uvuyo kunye nokuqaqamba.
Omnye weyona mibuzo inzima kunye neyona nto ibuhlungu umntu osentlungwini anokuba nayo ngeli xesha linzima ngulo, “Ndingazibhiyozela njani iiholide kodwa ndisabakhumbula yaye ndisabahlonela abo ndibathandayo babhiyozela iiholide eZulwini noThixo ngoku?”
Omnye umbuzo okhathaza intliziyo umntu (ojongene nokufa komntu amthandayo, uqhawulo-mtshato, okanye ungquzulwano losapho) angabanawo ngowokuba, “Ndiqhubeka njani ngeeholide xa ndibuhlungu kakhulu, kwaye ndihambela njani ngeeholide xa ndikhumbula izithandwa zam ngoluhlobo?"
Iiholide zinzima kakhulu kwabo basentlungwini enzulu ngenxa yokusweleka komntu abamthandayo, uqhawulo-mtshato, okanye ungquzulwano losapho okanye ukwahlukaniswa.
Abalila kakhulu bayabakhumbula abo babathandayo, kwaye iiholide zigcina iinkumbulo ezininzi; kodwa ngoku ezo nkumbulo zimangalisayo zeeholide ezidlulileyo zisenokuzisa intlungu enzulu.
Izithethe zazifudula zithandwa ngoku zibuhlungu kwaye zibuhlungu ngenxa yokuba umntu esimthandayo akasekho, okanye akasafuni ukwabelana ngazo.
Ndifumene ukutyhubela iintsuku ezinzima kunye neentlungu zentliziyo zeeholide zenzeka kuphela ngobabalo lukaThixo... ngothando lwakhe lwemihla ngemihla, uncedo, kunye nenkuthazo.
Cela uThixo kwangoku ukuba akuthuthuzele aphilise intliziyo yakho, umcele akuthulule ngenkuthazo njengoko usiya kwixesha leholide...inyathelo ngenyathelo...usuku nosuku...umzuzu nomzuzu...umcimbi. Usecaleni kwakho yaye uya kukuthwala.
Ngoko ke yintoni enokwenziwa ngosentlungwini ngezithethe?
Ukuba uziva ufuna ukwenza izithethe zakho zesiqhelo, ngandlela zonke, zenze... kwaye ungazivi unetyala ngokuvumela uvuyo lwakho. Is(z)ithandwa sakho sasikonwabele kwaye sasikuthanda ukukubona uzaliswe luvuyo ngelixa sasilapha. Bangakuthanda ukonwabela ukukubona uzele luvuyo kwakhona, njengokuba usentlungwini.
Ukuba awuziva ukulungele ukwenza izithethe zakho zesiqhelo, hlonipha usizi lwakho ngokuzivumela inkululeko yokuva into ekufuneka uyivile. Nceda ungaziva unetyala ngokufuna ukuba nexesha leholide elipholileyo nelithambileyo.
Zombini ziimpendulo ezifanelekileyo kwintlungu.
Nceda ungaziva unyanzelekile ukuba wenze okanye uve nantoni na, okanye uvumele uxinzelelo ukuba lukwenze ukuba wenze nantoni na engakuhloniphiyo apho ukhoyo kwinkqubo yakho yentlungu.
Abanye abantu abasentlungwini basenokufuna ukwenza isithethe ababethanda ukusenza nomntu wabo abamthandayo njengendlela yokubakhumbula nokubanika imbeko, ngoxa oko kusenokuba buhlungu gqitha kwabanye ngalo mzuzu.
Thetha nabathandekayo bakho abaseleyo kwaye wabelane ngentliziyo yakho ngokuchaza indlela oziva ngayo. Cela uthando nenkxaso yabo ngeli xesha leholide.
Zingqonge ngenkxaso eninzi!
Ukuba kukho icawa ekufutshane nawe enikezela ngeqela lenkxaso yentlungu, njenge-GriefShare okanye i-Grief Bites, ndikukhuthaza ngentliziyo epheleleyo ukuba uye kuwo.
Kukho ixesha layo yonke into, kuquka ukufuna inkuthazo nenkxaso, kwaye uThixo uthembekile ukukuthwala ngalo lonke ixesha ebomini bakho. Beka uThixo nentlungu yakho.
Vumela uThixo ukuba akhokele intlungu yakho kunye nentliziyo ebuhlungu, kwaye umbuze indlela yokusingatha izithethe kunye neli xesha lobomi bakho.
Kwiintsuku ezimbini ezizayo, ndiza kube ndinikezela ngeengcinga, hayi nje ukuba ungaphumela njani kwiiholide, kodwa nokuba noxolo kwaye udale amaxesha anentsingiselo ngexesha leeholide.
Mema uThixo, kanye ngoku, ukuba abe nguMhlobo owamkelweyo noxabisekileyo ngeeholide nangemihla ezayo.
Umthandazo:
"Bawo wasezulwini Othandekayo, ndiyabulela kuba akunyanzelekanga ndihambe ndedwa kwiiholide. Ndiyabulela ngokusuka entliziyweni yombulelo ongazenzisiyo ngokuhlala ulapha kum kwaye undithanda, kwaye ungaze undishiye okanye undilahle. Bawo ndicela undincede yonke le mihla xa ndityhubela kulentlungu nentliziyo ebuhlungu ndincede ndikhumbule ngothando ndibeke imbeko kwabo ndibathandayo, ndiyeke nantoni na endibambele intliziyo, ndize ndikubone kakuhle ukulunga kwakho. kunye neentsikelelo ngoqhwithela endidibana nalo ebomini.
Ndiyakuthanda, Nkosi, kwaye ndiyalidumisa iGama lakho elingcwele. EGameni likaYesu ndiyathandaza, Amen.”
Olu nqulo © 2015 luka Kim Niles/Intlungu Iyaluma. Onke Amalungelo Agciniwe. Isetyenziswe ngemvume.
Omnye weyona mibuzo inzima kunye neyona nto ibuhlungu umntu osentlungwini anokuba nayo ngeli xesha linzima ngulo, “Ndingazibhiyozela njani iiholide kodwa ndisabakhumbula yaye ndisabahlonela abo ndibathandayo babhiyozela iiholide eZulwini noThixo ngoku?”
Omnye umbuzo okhathaza intliziyo umntu (ojongene nokufa komntu amthandayo, uqhawulo-mtshato, okanye ungquzulwano losapho) angabanawo ngowokuba, “Ndiqhubeka njani ngeeholide xa ndibuhlungu kakhulu, kwaye ndihambela njani ngeeholide xa ndikhumbula izithandwa zam ngoluhlobo?"
Iiholide zinzima kakhulu kwabo basentlungwini enzulu ngenxa yokusweleka komntu abamthandayo, uqhawulo-mtshato, okanye ungquzulwano losapho okanye ukwahlukaniswa.
Abalila kakhulu bayabakhumbula abo babathandayo, kwaye iiholide zigcina iinkumbulo ezininzi; kodwa ngoku ezo nkumbulo zimangalisayo zeeholide ezidlulileyo zisenokuzisa intlungu enzulu.
Izithethe zazifudula zithandwa ngoku zibuhlungu kwaye zibuhlungu ngenxa yokuba umntu esimthandayo akasekho, okanye akasafuni ukwabelana ngazo.
Ndifumene ukutyhubela iintsuku ezinzima kunye neentlungu zentliziyo zeeholide zenzeka kuphela ngobabalo lukaThixo... ngothando lwakhe lwemihla ngemihla, uncedo, kunye nenkuthazo.
Cela uThixo kwangoku ukuba akuthuthuzele aphilise intliziyo yakho, umcele akuthulule ngenkuthazo njengoko usiya kwixesha leholide...inyathelo ngenyathelo...usuku nosuku...umzuzu nomzuzu...umcimbi. Usecaleni kwakho yaye uya kukuthwala.
Ngoko ke yintoni enokwenziwa ngosentlungwini ngezithethe?
Ukuba uziva ufuna ukwenza izithethe zakho zesiqhelo, ngandlela zonke, zenze... kwaye ungazivi unetyala ngokuvumela uvuyo lwakho. Is(z)ithandwa sakho sasikonwabele kwaye sasikuthanda ukukubona uzaliswe luvuyo ngelixa sasilapha. Bangakuthanda ukonwabela ukukubona uzele luvuyo kwakhona, njengokuba usentlungwini.
Ukuba awuziva ukulungele ukwenza izithethe zakho zesiqhelo, hlonipha usizi lwakho ngokuzivumela inkululeko yokuva into ekufuneka uyivile. Nceda ungaziva unetyala ngokufuna ukuba nexesha leholide elipholileyo nelithambileyo.
Zombini ziimpendulo ezifanelekileyo kwintlungu.
Nceda ungaziva unyanzelekile ukuba wenze okanye uve nantoni na, okanye uvumele uxinzelelo ukuba lukwenze ukuba wenze nantoni na engakuhloniphiyo apho ukhoyo kwinkqubo yakho yentlungu.
Abanye abantu abasentlungwini basenokufuna ukwenza isithethe ababethanda ukusenza nomntu wabo abamthandayo njengendlela yokubakhumbula nokubanika imbeko, ngoxa oko kusenokuba buhlungu gqitha kwabanye ngalo mzuzu.
Thetha nabathandekayo bakho abaseleyo kwaye wabelane ngentliziyo yakho ngokuchaza indlela oziva ngayo. Cela uthando nenkxaso yabo ngeli xesha leholide.
Zingqonge ngenkxaso eninzi!
Ukuba kukho icawa ekufutshane nawe enikezela ngeqela lenkxaso yentlungu, njenge-GriefShare okanye i-Grief Bites, ndikukhuthaza ngentliziyo epheleleyo ukuba uye kuwo.
Kukho ixesha layo yonke into, kuquka ukufuna inkuthazo nenkxaso, kwaye uThixo uthembekile ukukuthwala ngalo lonke ixesha ebomini bakho. Beka uThixo nentlungu yakho.
Vumela uThixo ukuba akhokele intlungu yakho kunye nentliziyo ebuhlungu, kwaye umbuze indlela yokusingatha izithethe kunye neli xesha lobomi bakho.
Kwiintsuku ezimbini ezizayo, ndiza kube ndinikezela ngeengcinga, hayi nje ukuba ungaphumela njani kwiiholide, kodwa nokuba noxolo kwaye udale amaxesha anentsingiselo ngexesha leeholide.
Mema uThixo, kanye ngoku, ukuba abe nguMhlobo owamkelweyo noxabisekileyo ngeeholide nangemihla ezayo.
Umthandazo:
"Bawo wasezulwini Othandekayo, ndiyabulela kuba akunyanzelekanga ndihambe ndedwa kwiiholide. Ndiyabulela ngokusuka entliziyweni yombulelo ongazenzisiyo ngokuhlala ulapha kum kwaye undithanda, kwaye ungaze undishiye okanye undilahle. Bawo ndicela undincede yonke le mihla xa ndityhubela kulentlungu nentliziyo ebuhlungu ndincede ndikhumbule ngothando ndibeke imbeko kwabo ndibathandayo, ndiyeke nantoni na endibambele intliziyo, ndize ndikubone kakuhle ukulunga kwakho. kunye neentsikelelo ngoqhwithela endidibana nalo ebomini.
Ndiyakuthanda, Nkosi, kwaye ndiyalidumisa iGama lakho elingcwele. EGameni likaYesu ndiyathandaza, Amen.”
Olu nqulo © 2015 luka Kim Niles/Intlungu Iyaluma. Onke Amalungelo Agciniwe. Isetyenziswe ngemvume.
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Kwabaninzi, iiholide lixesha lovuyo olukhulu... kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa iiholide zilahlekelwa kukukhanya kwazo kwaye zibe ngumngeni ngenxa yentlungu enzulu okanye ilahleko? Esi sicwangciso sokufunda sikhethekileyo siya kunceda abo basentlungwini ukuba bafumane intuthuzelo nethemba ngeeholide, kwaye sinikeza nendlela yokudala ixesha leholide elinentsingiselo phezu kwayo nje intlungu enzulu.
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Sithanda ukubulela uKim Niles, umbhali we-Getting Your Breath Back After Life Knocks It Out of You, ngokubonelela ngesi sicwangciso. Ngolwazi oluthe vetshe, nceda undwendwele ku: www.griefbites.com
