Be Intentional

• Read the Scripture carefully. What do you notice about the servant’s planning? He was intentional about where and when he went searching for Isaac’s potential bride.
• Be intentional. Step out of your comfort zone and actively engage with potential partners. Immerse yourself in social circles where you can meet like-minded individuals (faith being the most important value, as discussed previously). Don't isolate yourself in video games, sports activities, or solely within your established friend groups. Expand your social horizons and put yourself in situations where you can connect with potential romantic partners.
• The 3 Coffee Date Rule is a simple framework to help people navigate the early stages of courtship or dating. Before using it, it is crucial to spend time getting to know each other's personalities and values in group settings. Don't rush into these dates immediately after meeting someone.
• The 3 Coffee Date guide (from the perspective of a man seeking a godly woman):
  • First Date: If you're interested in a woman of good character, chances are she'll agree to a date if she finds you at least respectable, even if she doesn't have strong feelings initially. Her kindness, thoughtfulness, and caring nature may lead her to accept your invitation.
  • Second Date: After a few days or weeks, if you feel the first date went well and your interest in her has grown, consider asking for a second date. If she agrees without hesitation, it suggests a level of mutual interest. While there's always a possibility of her being overly polite, typically, a woman would likely decline if she's not interested.
  • Third Date: If the second date goes smoothly and the third date is arranged effortlessly, it's a strong indication of mutual feelings. This is the moment for you to take that courageous step and express your romantic interest. Initiate a conversation about the potential for a deeper relationship between the two of you.
• Ladies, note your role here is not passive or without choice. Clear communication is most helpful, and a little open-mindedness is definitely encouraged if you’re unsure whether you like the man or not. Seek counsel from older women where needed.

Scripture:

Genesis 24:10-11.

Reflection:

Do you think you’re being intentional in your relationship?

If you are considering stepping into a relationship, do you think you are ready to be intentional? Are you ready to commit to it continuously?

Which relationships do you see around you that reflect the fruit of intentionality?

Application:

1. Consider ways to be more intentional in your relationship, if you’re in one.
2. If you’re not in one but are exploring the possibility, write down some ways you’d like to be intentional.
3. Make a list of topics you’d like to be intentional in discussing with the other person.
4. Ask the other person what they would like to discuss or explore with you.

Prayer:

Holy Spirit, convict my heart to be more intentional in all my life’s work. Particularly when it comes to loving others, and in seeking/pursuing someone to marry, Father give me strength. Forgive me for the time wasted, but remind me that all my guilt was put on Jesus and I am free, joyfully, to do life the way you have called me. Help me to see my role and responsibility in this, and give me wisdom and discernment in where I put my energy and time, intentionally and deliberately, with constant prayer.