A Biblical Guide to Dating: The Road to MarriageSample

A Biblical Explanation of Dating

• We are inherently social beings, wired for connection and belonging. Our deepest fulfillment comes from relationships: first and foremost with God, and then with others. Statistically, the majority of people will enter into marriage at some point in their lives. However, the prevailing approach to relationships in our world, characterized by the "hook up, shack up, break up, repeat" cycle does not bring the fulfillment that it promises and yet many repeat the cycle again and again. There is a better way...
• While the term "dating" is commonly used today to describe romantic relationships, the Bible offers a different perspective on how relationships should develop. The biblical concept of courtship emphasizes intentionality and purpose, with the ultimate goal of marriage. Unlike modern dating, which often involves a casual approach to relationships, courtship is characterized by a clear understanding of the potential for a lifelong commitment.
• Some may engage in dating to seek fulfillment, enhance their social status, or avoid their feelings of loneliness. However, the primary focus of these relationships often deviates from the biblical intention of seeking God's guidance and aligning with His principles for marriage.
• Regardless of your past mistakes or experiences, your current stage of faith, or your relationship status, I want to assure you that the Lord still has something important to say to you. God desires to guide you towards fulfilling relationships, with the people around you and with Himself. His word is living and active, and He is actively working in your life. Open your heart and let Him speak to you.

Scripture:

Proverbs 3:3-4; Proverbs 4:23; Proverbs 3:5–7

Reflection:

What are the important aspects of relationships that the first two Scriptures highlight?

How do your current relationships reflect these aspects, and where can you improve?

Do you feel your heart is guarded sufficiently in matters of dating/courting/marriage, or are you in over your head?

How does the third Scripture guide and encourage you in this process?

Application:

1. How might you guard your heart in matters of dating?
2. How does faithfulness influence your decision-making, both concerning God and the other person?
3. How can you consider the best possible way to love that person, in line with God’s Word, in the process?
4. Consider whose counsel you might need to navigate this journey. If you are already involved with someone, discuss it with them and see whom they trust to consult. Consider doing it together versus separately, and what benefits might come of each scenario.

Prayer:

Lord, help me to see my weaknesses and blind spots. Prepare and guard my heart, as I redefine any twisted views on love, dating, and marriage. Let me meditate on your word so that it sinks into my soul, that I might not waver or wander from your instructions. Give me wisdom where your Word is not specific, and grant me discernment to know where and how to apply it.