Inkambo Yangaphambi KomshadoIsampula
Ukuzijabulisa
Umshado usinikeza elinye lamathuba amakhulu kakhulu empilweni kanye nenye yezinselelo ezinkulu kakhulu:
- ithuba lokwakha ubudlelwano obusondelene kakhulu, izinzuzo zazo ezidlula thina ngokwethu
- inselelo yokuqhubeka nokufunda ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuthanda omunye umuntu, ukubheka ngale kwezidingo zethu nokuqhubeka nokuthola ukuthi yini ebalulekile kozakwethu, bese senza izinguquko kwezethu ukuziphatha kwakho
Vumelanani ngezinto eziza kuqala
Singase sibe nobuntu obuhluke kakhulu, kepha ukuba namanani ayisisekelo afanayo nokusetha izinto eziseqhulwini okuvunyelwene ngakho kwenza ukuthi umbhangqwana wakhe umshado oqinile.
- yabelana ngamaphupho enu, izifiso, amathemba kanye nokulangazelela
- yenza ubuhlobo bakho noNkulunkulu kube yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe, ilandelwe ngumshado wakho, bese izingane zakho (uma unazo), bese kuthi konke nokunye wonke umuntu
Izindawo ezine ezizothinteka ngokuhamba phambili kwakho:
1. Ubungani
- musani ukuzinquma njengabashadile; yonke imishado idinga inethiwekhi yokusekelwa
- uvikele umshado wakho kunoma yibuphi ubudlelwano obungawusongela
- beka imingcele ukuze uzivikele engozini yokuthandana
2. Izingane nempilo yomndeni
- xoxa ngokulindelekile kwakho kokuthola izingane
- qhubekani nenza isikhathi somunye nomunye uma futhi ninezidingo zezingane ezincane
3. Umsebenzi
- musa ukuncintisana nomunye nomunye
- khuluma ngokuthi uzolinganisela kanjani umsebenzi nokunakekela izingane
4. Ingokomoya
- ukuhlola izinkolelo zakho ezingumgogodla kuzokusondeza eduze (cabanga ukwenza i-Alfa ukuhlola ukholo lobuKristu nokukunika ulimi lokukhuluma kalula ndawonye ngezindaba ezingokomoya)
- khuluma ngokuthi yiziphi izinkolelo namanani ongathanda ukuwadlulisela ezinganeni zakho, uma unazo
Njengoba ngamunye wethu ebheka kuNkulunkulu ukuthola nokuzwa uthando lwakhe, intethelelo kanye nomuzwa wenhloso yakhe ngezimpilo zethu, sikwazi ukuthandana kangcono.
Abahambi nabanakekeli
Yize sonke sizoba yingxubevange, bona ukuthi ngabe omunye wenu unomoya 'wokuzijabulisa' kangakanani kanti omunye unomoya 'wokukhulisa,'
Ukuzijabulisa
- Ufuna ukusebenzisa kahle wonke amathuba anikezwa yimpilo. Umshado ngokwawo bawubheka njengokuzijabulisa okuhlangene. Abavakashi baletha amandla nokuhlangenwe nakho okusha ebudlelwaneni.
Abondli
- babone umshado wabo njengendawo ephephile yokubuyela kuyo ngemuva kwanoma iziphi izinselelo noma izinselelo ezilethwa impilo. Abondli baletha ukufana nokwejwayelekile ebudlelwaneni.
Kokubili ukuzidlela nokukhulisa kwenza umnikelo obaluleke ngokulinganayo ebudlelwaneni
- ukuzijabulisa okuncane kakhulu futhi ubudlelwano bakho bungamiswa
- i-adventure eningi kakhulu futhi ungangeqiwa
Njengezithandani, isibopho senu ukwazisa amandla we-adventure nokuphepha kokululama.
Yonke imishado idinga ukunika isikhala esanele sokuzidela nokukhulisa. Lapho la mabutho amabili esebenza kahle emshadweni wakho, umshado ngokwawo uba enye yezigemegeme ezinkulu zokuphila.
UmBhalo
Mayelana naloluHlelo
Imishado eqinile ayivele izithuthukise. Ithemba lethu ukuthi uzothola izimo zengqondo, izindinganiso nemikhuba edingekayo ukwakha umshado onempilo noqinile oyohlala impilo yonke. Lolu hlelo lwezinsuku ezinhlanu luthathwe kwi-The Pre-Marriage Course eyenziwe nguNicky noSila Lee, ababhali beThe Marriage Book.
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