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Ukuzibophezela

Ukwenza ukuzibophezela kwakha ukwethembana phakathi kwethu, kusenza sikwazi ukuba sengozini komunye nomunye futhi silinge ukutshelana imicabango nemizwa yethu ejulile; ukuzibophezela kusivumela ukuthi sihlele ikusasa lethu sobabili; kusivumela ukuthi sizame izinto, senze izinto zingahambi kahle, sixolele, sibe nokuzethemba ukuphakamisa izingqinamba ezidinga ukuxoxwa - ukuzibophezela 'kuyisisekelo somshado', inhliziyo uqobo.

Imiphumela emibili yokuzibophezela:

1. Ubungani
   Ukuzibophezela komshado kuhlangabezana nokulangazelela kwethu ukuxhumana okujulile, ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba. Umshado akuyona ukuphela kwendlela yokulwisana nesizungu, kodwa ubuhlobo obuseduze kakhulu babantu.
2. Impilo yomndeni
   Uthando oluzinikele phakathi kwabazali lisho ukuthi izingane zabo zikhula zibona isibonelo esihle sobuhlobo obuseduze, obuzinikele, besikhathi eside esiseduze. Enye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu abazali abangabathanda ngayo abantwana babo ukuthandana. Umshado oqinile ungaphula umjikelezo wobudlelwano obuhlulekile emndenini.

Dala ubudlelwano obulinganayo phakathi kwakho

Yonke imibhangqwana kufanele ijwayeze:

• owenza ini
• ngubani onquma ukuthi yini
• ohola kulezo zinto ezidinga ukwenziwa

Singabamba okucatshangelwayo emshadweni wabazali bethu (noma abayizibonelo ezinkulu) wokuthi yimiphi imithwalo yemfanelo okufanele ngamunye wethu ayithathe, kepha lokhu kungangqubuzana nemibono yozakwethu. 

Khuluma ngokulindela kwakho ukuthi ngubani ozokwenza ini ebudlelwaneni bakho nokuthi lokhu kungahluka kanjani kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho emlandweni wakho womndeni.

Zithobe komunye nomunye (Kwabase-Efesu 5:21)

Imodeli yeTestamente Elisha yokuhanjiswa ngokuhlanganyela

• unikeze amaKrestu indlela entsha yokuphila ndawonye
• ibidinga ukupha ngokubambisana
• kubukele phansi ukubuswa kwabantu besilisa nokulawulwa

Imfundiso yobuKrestu iholele ekutheni ubudlelwano bomshado buze bubonakale njengobambiswano olulinganayo lokuphana ngokuhlanganyela

‘Ukuhambisa’ akusho ukungabi nandaba

• ukuthumela kuphambene nokufuna noma ukulawula
• kusho ukufuna ukubeka omunye nomunye kuqala
• kuyindlela yothando ebeka izidingo zomunye nomunye ngaphambi kwezethu

Thola ukuthi yimiphi imithwalo yemfanelo okufanele ngamunye wakho uyithathe

• sebenzisa umehluko wakho ukukhonzana
• kwezinye izindawo zempilo yenu nobabili, hola bese uqala
• kokunye, sekela umlingani wakho

Ukuthanda kanjena kuyasebenza kakhulu futhi kufaka phakathi ukuzidela ngenxa yomunye.

Uzithoba komunye nomunye kuyisihluthulelo somshado onothando.

Isivumelwano somshado

Isivumelwano esisenzayo lapho sishada yisinqumo sokuzinikela ngokuphelele othandweni, bese kuba yisinqumo esisiqinisa nsuku zonke emshadweni wethu.

Isivumelwano somshado sigcina izithandani zihlangane lapho zidlula ezikhathini ezinzima, njengabo bonke abashadikazi.

Izifungo esizenza ngamunye ezakha umshado wethu ziletha ukuphepha okujulile futhi zisinikeza indawo ephephile lapho singakwazi ukuvuleleka futhi sibe sengozini komunye nomunye

• zisinikeza ukuzethemba ukuvumela umlingani wethu ukuthi asazi njengoba sinjalo (kufaka phakathi ukuveza lezo zingxenye esizigcina zifihliwe kahle) futhi lokho kwakha ukusondelana
• izifungo azigxili kulokho umlingani wethu angasenzela khona kepha kulokho esingabenzela kona