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Ukuxhumana

Ukuxhumana okuhle kuyisici esibalulekile somshado onempilo. Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho sishada lapho sibona khona ukuthi eminye yemibono yethu ejulile ngempilo ayabelwana ngayo yonke indawo.

Sonke sihlukile ngendlela esixhumana ngayo, futhi lokhu kuthinteka ngu:

• ubuntu bethu
• ingemuva lethu

1. Ubuntu bethu

Kukhululiwe
Omunye wethu angahle acubungule imicabango yethu ngaphandle. Ngamanye amazwi, sivame ucabange ngokuzwakalayo.

Ungenile
Uzakwethu angahle ahlele ukuhlela imicabango yakhe emakhanda abo kuqala ngaphambi kokuba bakhulume.

Ukuhlaziya
Omunye wethu angalungisa izinto ngokuhlelekile futhi kungathatha isikhathi eside ukwenza izinqumo.

Ngokuzibonela
Uzakwethu angahle asebenze ngokuzingela futhi kwesinye isikhathi afinyelele eziphethweni.

Ukukhuluma ngokwethembeka nokwamukela lokhu kwehluka kobuntu kubalulekile uma sifuna ukuba nomshado oqinile.

2. Imvelaphi yethu yomndeni

Eminye imindeni ithule, eminye imemeza kakhulu. Eminye imindeni iye iguquguquke, eminye ithule. Eminye imindeni iyashintshana ngokuxoxa, eminye iphazamisa kaningi.

Sidinga ukubona izici ezijwayelekile zokuxhumana emindenini yethu ngayinye, ikakhulukazi uma omunye wethu evela kumndeni oveza ukungaboni ngaso linye ngenkathi umndeni womlingani wethu uthambekele ekubambezelekeni noma ekugwemeni ukukhuluma ngemibono engqubuzanayo ku konke.

Izithiyo ekukhulumisaneni okuhle

1. Ukwehluleka ukwenza isikhathi

Beka eceleni isikhathi nengxoxo eyakhayo njalo.

• hlela lesi sikhathi emakhalendeni akho (akwenzeki nje)
• aqaphe kulokhu izinto ezazingaba iziphazamiso futhi iziphazamiso, ikakhulukazi kusukela amafoni nezinye zesikrini.

Bona ukuthi kunini lapho kufanele ulahle khona konke bese ulalela umlingani wakho.

2. Ukwehluleka ukukhuluma ngemizwa yethu

Abanye abantu kufanele bafunde ukukhuluma ngemizwa yabo njengoba kungenzeka ukuthi bebengenaso isibonelo esihle abakhulayo

• ungathola ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho kunzima ngenxa yomuzwa wokungafaneleki noma ukuba sengozini, noma ukwesaba ukuthi omunye umuntu uzophendula kanjani.
• alinge ukwethemba umlingani wakho ngemizwa yakho. 
• uma umlingani wakho ehluleka ukuveza imizwa yakhe, qiniseka ukuthi ubalalela ngaphandle kokwahlulela noma ukugxeka.

Ukwabelana ngemicabango yethu esekujuleni nemizwa yethu kubalulekile ekwakheni umshado oqinile.

3. Ukwehluleka ukulalelana

Ukulalela kubaluleke kakhulu ekwakheni isisekelo sokuqonda nokusondelana emshadweni.

Ukungalalelwa kulimaza kakhulu ubudlelwano. Ngenkathi, lapho othile esilalela, sizizwa:

• kuzwisisiwe
• kubalule
• kuyasekelwa
• thanda

Iningi lethu linemikhuba emibi yokulalela okufanele liyinqobe, njenge:

• ukuyeka ukuzibandakanya ngengqondo lapho umlingani wethu ekhuluma nathi
• ukuhamba nge-tangent ngendaba yethu siqu
• sinikeza izeluleko zethu ngokushesha kunokuzwelana nemizwa kazakwethu
• ukwenza ukwesaba kwabo kungasebenzi noma ukuveza kwabo noma imiphi imizwa emibi ngokuhlala ubaqinisekisa ukuthi kuzolunga
• Ukuphazamisa umlingani wethu nemibono yethu noma ukuqedela imisho yabo

Ungalalela kanjani

Kuthatha ukubekezela ukuze ufunde ukulalela ngempumelelo. Ukulalela ngempumelelo kusho:

• ukuvumela umlingani wethu aqedele lokho abafuna ukukusho
• ukubeka eceleni i-ajenda yethu nokufuna ukubona umhlaba ngamehlo ozakwethu
• ukwenza umzamo wokubaqonda lapho becabanga noma bezizwa ngokuhlukile kithina