Thola i AppIzingxoxo ezincane ngosizi: Ithemba lamaholideIsampula
Ungawakha kanjani amaholide anenjongo agcwele ukuthula, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani ekuphileni?
Lapho ubhekene nosizi, ikakhulukazi ngemva kokulahlekelwa othandekayo noma ubuhlobo nomuntu othandekayo, kuyinto ebuhlungu kakhulu ukudala "okujwayelekile okusha" okudingekayo... ikakhulukazi ngamaholide. Impela kuthatha isikhathi.
Uma uphakathi kwezinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala noma unyaka wokuqala wokulahlekelwa othandekayo, cishe uzwa ubuhlungu benhliziyo obukhulu futhi awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi uwahlela kanjani noma uwahamba kanjani phakathi namaholide. Abanye cishe abafuni ukwenza lutho, ingasaphathwa eyokuhlela izikhathi ezikhethekile ezinengqondo zamaholide.
Kwesinye isikhathi, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza phakathi nosizi wukuzinika imvume yokuthula buthule noNkulunkulu futhi uchithe isikhathi samaholide kanye Naye, njengoba uchitha isikhathi emthandazweni Naye, ujabulela uthando Lwakhe.
Abanye bangase babe nekhono lokujabulela uKhisimusi njengenjwayelo ngokwenza zonke izinto ezijabulisayo nezikhumbulekayo kanye namasiko abahlale bethanda ukukwenza...futhi lesi isipho esihle kakhulu!
Abanye bangase bazithole besendaweni ethile phakathi kwalezi zimo ezimbili... befisa ukwenza amasiko avamile, kodwa futhi befisa ukuba bodwa ngenxa yokuba nesikhathi esinzima nokuzwa ubuhlungu obukhulu benhliziyo.
Konke kulungile ngoba usizi aluyona into yokusika amakhukhi. Ayikho "impendulo engalungile." UNkulunkulu uqondisa futhi aqondise usizi ngalunye ngendlela ehluke kakhulu.
Mina ngokwami ngithole lapho ngigxila kakhulu kuNkulunkulu kanye “nesizathu sangempela sesizini,” kwaba yilapho ngakwazi kangcono ukujabulela inkathi kaKhisimusi. Ngiphinde ngathola ukuthi lapho ngithela ngamabomu kwabanye ngesikhathi samaholide, futhi ngihlanganisa ingxube yamasiko amadala namasha, amaholide aba ngumthwalo owesabekayo.
Uzidala kanjani izinkumbulo ezibalulekile zamaholide kuyilapho ulahlekelwe obathandayo noma ubhekene nenselele yempilo?
Ukucela uNkulunkulu ukuba akusize ubheke ngale kobuhlungu (ngenkathi usagona futhi uzulazula phakathi nobuhlungu benhliziyo nosizi lwakho) futhi ngenjongo yokuhlanganisa incazelo noma isiko elisha lamaholide kungaba nzima; kodwa ekugcineni kungaba usizo...futhi kuphole ngendlela emangalisayo.
Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa:
Ngenkathi ngimncane, ngikhumbula ubaba wami enomndeni wethu wonke egqoke izingubo zokulala ukuze sikwazi ukuyobuka izibani zikaKhisimusi ndawonye. Ngemva kokuba nengane yami, besilokhu sihlonipha leli siko elikhethekile futhi sihlala sigqoka izingubo zokulala futhi sibheke izibani zikaKhisimusi. Manje sesikwenze lokhu iminyaka engaphezu kwamashumi amabili.
Elinye isiko engithanda ukulenza ukubhaka izibiliboco zikadadewethu zikaKhisimusi. Ngibe sengibheka ukubona ukuthi ubani olimazayo phakathi komndeni wami nabangane futhi ngibamangaze ngamathreyi amnandi kaKhisimusi. Ngithanda ukukhuthaza abanye phakathi nenkathi yamaholide futhi ngibanike isikhathi sokukhululeka osizini lwabo.
Intokazi ethile eqenjini lami losizi, eyabhekana nokushona kwentombazane yayo encane, yahlanganyela nami ukuthi amaholide ayehlukumeza eminyakeni embalwa yokuqala ngemva kokushona kwendodakazi yakhe. Le ntokazi ekhethekile yamukela ingelosi (izama ukuthola ingelosi enosuku lokuzalwa olufanayo nendodakazi yayo) ku-Angel Tree yangakubo futhi ithengela ingane eswele izipho zokuhlonipha indodakazi yayo.
Kuhle futhi ukukhanyisa ikhandlela lenkumbulo ukuze uhloniphe othandekayo wakho. Nginomngane omuhle oza eqenjini lami losizi (uphinde abe ngumholi we-Grief Bites) okhanyisa ikhandlela abeke isithombe sabazali bakhe ekhandlelani elikhethekile. Kuyindlela enhle yokukhumbula othandekayo iholidi ngalinye.
Buza uNkulunkulu ukuthi angathanda ukuba usichithe kanjani lesi sikhathi samaholidi. Kungase kube inkathi yamaholide ekhululekile, enokuthula echithwa ngokuyinhloko Naye... ingase ihlanganise nawe ukuba umthombo wothando nesikhuthazo kwabanye... kungase kube ukugubha kahle indlela obugubha ngayo njalo...kungase kube vele uchithe isikhathi (futhi ujabulele) nabathandekayo bakho... kungase kube ngcono ukuphuma edolobheni ukuze ubalekele...noma kungase kube ukwenza inhlanganisela yazo zonke lezi zinto.
Noma ngabe ukhetha ukuchitha amaholide, ngithandazela ukuthi uhlale wazi ukuthi uNkulunkulu ukukhathalela kangakanani ngempela. Ngithandazela ukuthi ithemba Lakhe nothando kube ngokoqobo kuwe ngokwesipiliyoni! Ngifisela wonke umuntu uthando, ukuphulukiswa, nokuthula!
Kwangathi lesi sikhathi samaholide singagcwaliswa ngezinkumbulo ezifudumele, ezikhethekile...futhi ikakhulukazi i-themba!
Ususitholile Isipho ESIPHELELE...ubudlelwane noJesu Kristu?
Zinike isikhathi namuhla ufunde uLuka 2:1-21 kanye noJohane 3:16 ukuze uvule Isipho esihle kunazo zonke ongakunika sona. UJesu ulinde ngezandla ezimhlophe ukukwamukela - njengoba unjalo - futhi akuthethelele zonke izono zakho. Okufanele ukwenze nje ukuba nengxoxo eqotho noNkulunkulu ngokucela uJesu ukuba angene enhliziyweni yakho futhi umcele ukuba akwenze ube musha sha!
Uma ungathanda ithemba elingeziwe nesikhuthazo, ngikumema ukuthi ufunde ezinye izinhlelo zethu zokufunda:
•Izinhlungu Zosizi: Ukuthola Umcebo Ebunzimeni •Izinyembezi Zosizi: Indlela Entsha Yokukhulisa Usizi •Izinhlungu Zosizi: Kwembulwa Ukungabaza •Ukucula Phakathi Nesiphepho
Siphinde sinikeze isikhuthazo nsuku zonke kubhulogi yethu kanye nekhasi le-Facebook, futhi:
•www.griefbites.com
•www.facebook.com/GettingYourBreathBackAfterGrief
Ubaluleke kakhulu futhi uNkulunkulu ukukhathalela ngokujulile usizi lwakho! Ngikukhathalela ngokujulile.
Lapho ubhekene nosizi, ikakhulukazi ngemva kokulahlekelwa othandekayo noma ubuhlobo nomuntu othandekayo, kuyinto ebuhlungu kakhulu ukudala "okujwayelekile okusha" okudingekayo... ikakhulukazi ngamaholide. Impela kuthatha isikhathi.
Uma uphakathi kwezinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala noma unyaka wokuqala wokulahlekelwa othandekayo, cishe uzwa ubuhlungu benhliziyo obukhulu futhi awunaso isiqiniseko sokuthi uwahlela kanjani noma uwahamba kanjani phakathi namaholide. Abanye cishe abafuni ukwenza lutho, ingasaphathwa eyokuhlela izikhathi ezikhethekile ezinengqondo zamaholide.
Kwesinye isikhathi, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza phakathi nosizi wukuzinika imvume yokuthula buthule noNkulunkulu futhi uchithe isikhathi samaholide kanye Naye, njengoba uchitha isikhathi emthandazweni Naye, ujabulela uthando Lwakhe.
Abanye bangase babe nekhono lokujabulela uKhisimusi njengenjwayelo ngokwenza zonke izinto ezijabulisayo nezikhumbulekayo kanye namasiko abahlale bethanda ukukwenza...futhi lesi isipho esihle kakhulu!
Abanye bangase bazithole besendaweni ethile phakathi kwalezi zimo ezimbili... befisa ukwenza amasiko avamile, kodwa futhi befisa ukuba bodwa ngenxa yokuba nesikhathi esinzima nokuzwa ubuhlungu obukhulu benhliziyo.
Konke kulungile ngoba usizi aluyona into yokusika amakhukhi. Ayikho "impendulo engalungile." UNkulunkulu uqondisa futhi aqondise usizi ngalunye ngendlela ehluke kakhulu.
Mina ngokwami ngithole lapho ngigxila kakhulu kuNkulunkulu kanye “nesizathu sangempela sesizini,” kwaba yilapho ngakwazi kangcono ukujabulela inkathi kaKhisimusi. Ngiphinde ngathola ukuthi lapho ngithela ngamabomu kwabanye ngesikhathi samaholide, futhi ngihlanganisa ingxube yamasiko amadala namasha, amaholide aba ngumthwalo owesabekayo.
Uzidala kanjani izinkumbulo ezibalulekile zamaholide kuyilapho ulahlekelwe obathandayo noma ubhekene nenselele yempilo?
Ukucela uNkulunkulu ukuba akusize ubheke ngale kobuhlungu (ngenkathi usagona futhi uzulazula phakathi nobuhlungu benhliziyo nosizi lwakho) futhi ngenjongo yokuhlanganisa incazelo noma isiko elisha lamaholide kungaba nzima; kodwa ekugcineni kungaba usizo...futhi kuphole ngendlela emangalisayo.
Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa:
Ngenkathi ngimncane, ngikhumbula ubaba wami enomndeni wethu wonke egqoke izingubo zokulala ukuze sikwazi ukuyobuka izibani zikaKhisimusi ndawonye. Ngemva kokuba nengane yami, besilokhu sihlonipha leli siko elikhethekile futhi sihlala sigqoka izingubo zokulala futhi sibheke izibani zikaKhisimusi. Manje sesikwenze lokhu iminyaka engaphezu kwamashumi amabili.
Elinye isiko engithanda ukulenza ukubhaka izibiliboco zikadadewethu zikaKhisimusi. Ngibe sengibheka ukubona ukuthi ubani olimazayo phakathi komndeni wami nabangane futhi ngibamangaze ngamathreyi amnandi kaKhisimusi. Ngithanda ukukhuthaza abanye phakathi nenkathi yamaholide futhi ngibanike isikhathi sokukhululeka osizini lwabo.
Intokazi ethile eqenjini lami losizi, eyabhekana nokushona kwentombazane yayo encane, yahlanganyela nami ukuthi amaholide ayehlukumeza eminyakeni embalwa yokuqala ngemva kokushona kwendodakazi yakhe. Le ntokazi ekhethekile yamukela ingelosi (izama ukuthola ingelosi enosuku lokuzalwa olufanayo nendodakazi yayo) ku-Angel Tree yangakubo futhi ithengela ingane eswele izipho zokuhlonipha indodakazi yayo.
Kuhle futhi ukukhanyisa ikhandlela lenkumbulo ukuze uhloniphe othandekayo wakho. Nginomngane omuhle oza eqenjini lami losizi (uphinde abe ngumholi we-Grief Bites) okhanyisa ikhandlela abeke isithombe sabazali bakhe ekhandlelani elikhethekile. Kuyindlela enhle yokukhumbula othandekayo iholidi ngalinye.
Buza uNkulunkulu ukuthi angathanda ukuba usichithe kanjani lesi sikhathi samaholidi. Kungase kube inkathi yamaholide ekhululekile, enokuthula echithwa ngokuyinhloko Naye... ingase ihlanganise nawe ukuba umthombo wothando nesikhuthazo kwabanye... kungase kube ukugubha kahle indlela obugubha ngayo njalo...kungase kube vele uchithe isikhathi (futhi ujabulele) nabathandekayo bakho... kungase kube ngcono ukuphuma edolobheni ukuze ubalekele...noma kungase kube ukwenza inhlanganisela yazo zonke lezi zinto.
Noma ngabe ukhetha ukuchitha amaholide, ngithandazela ukuthi uhlale wazi ukuthi uNkulunkulu ukukhathalela kangakanani ngempela. Ngithandazela ukuthi ithemba Lakhe nothando kube ngokoqobo kuwe ngokwesipiliyoni! Ngifisela wonke umuntu uthando, ukuphulukiswa, nokuthula!
Kwangathi lesi sikhathi samaholide singagcwaliswa ngezinkumbulo ezifudumele, ezikhethekile...futhi ikakhulukazi i-themba!
Ususitholile Isipho ESIPHELELE...ubudlelwane noJesu Kristu?
Zinike isikhathi namuhla ufunde uLuka 2:1-21 kanye noJohane 3:16 ukuze uvule Isipho esihle kunazo zonke ongakunika sona. UJesu ulinde ngezandla ezimhlophe ukukwamukela - njengoba unjalo - futhi akuthethelele zonke izono zakho. Okufanele ukwenze nje ukuba nengxoxo eqotho noNkulunkulu ngokucela uJesu ukuba angene enhliziyweni yakho futhi umcele ukuba akwenze ube musha sha!
Uma ungathanda ithemba elingeziwe nesikhuthazo, ngikumema ukuthi ufunde ezinye izinhlelo zethu zokufunda:
•Izinhlungu Zosizi: Ukuthola Umcebo Ebunzimeni •Izinyembezi Zosizi: Indlela Entsha Yokukhulisa Usizi •Izinhlungu Zosizi: Kwembulwa Ukungabaza •Ukucula Phakathi Nesiphepho
Siphinde sinikeze isikhuthazo nsuku zonke kubhulogi yethu kanye nekhasi le-Facebook, futhi:
•www.griefbites.com
•www.facebook.com/GettingYourBreathBackAfterGrief
Ubaluleke kakhulu futhi uNkulunkulu ukukhathalela ngokujulile usizi lwakho! Ngikukhathalela ngokujulile.
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