Thola i AppIzingxoxo ezincane ngosizi: Ithemba lamaholideIsampula
Lapho umuntu edlula ekulahlekelweni kobuhlobo, ngenxa yokushona kothandekayo, isehlukaniso, noma ukungqubuzana komndeni, amaholide angalahlekelwa ngokuphelele ithemba, injabulo kanye nenhlansi.
Omunye wemibuzo enzima futhi edabukisa kakhulu kososizini angaba nayo phakathi nalesi sikhathi esiyinselelo uthi, "Ngingawagubha kanjani amaholide kodwa ngibe ngikhumbula futhi ngihloniphe abantu engibathandayo okumanje bagubha amaholide eZulwini noNkulunkulu?"
Omunye umbuzo odabukisayo kothile (oshonelwe othandekayo, isehlukaniso, noma ukungqubuzana komndeni) angase abe nawo uthi, “Ngingadlulela kanjani emaholidini lapho ngidabuke kakhulu, futhi ngingajabula kanjani ngamaholide lapho ngikhumbula othandiwe wami kakhulu?"
Amaholide anzima kakhulu kulabo abasosizini olujulile ngenxa yokushonelwa othandekayo, isehlukaniso, noma izingxabano zomndeni noma ukuhlukana.
Abasosizini babakhumbula ngokujulile abathandekayo babo, futhi amaholide anezinkumbulo eziningi; kodwa manje lezo zinkumbulo ezinhle zamaholide adlule zingase zilethe usizi olukhulu.
Amasiko ake athandwa manje abuhlungu futhi ayahlaba ngenxa yokuthi othandekayo akasekho, noma akasazimisele, ukwabelana ngawo.
Ngithole ukudlula ezinsukwini ezinzima futhi ubuhlungu benhliziyo ngamaholide kwenzeka kuphela ngomusa kaNkulunkulu...ngothando Lwakhe lwansuku zonke, usizo, kanye nesikhuthazo Sakhe.
Cela uNkulunkulu njengamanje ukuba akududuze futhi aphulukise inhliziyo yakho, futhi umcele ukuba akuthele ngesikhuthazo njengoba uqhubeka nesikhathi samaholide...isinyathelo ngesinyathelo...usuku nosuku...umzuzwana nomzuzwana...usaga nesaga. Useceleni kwakho futhi uzokuthwala.
Pho onosizi uhlangana kanjani namasiko?
Uma uzizwa ufuna ukwenza amasiko akho ajwayelekile, nakanjani, kwenze...futhi ungazizwa unecala ngokuvumela injabulo. O(aba)thandiweyo wakho ukujabulele futhi ukuthandile ukukubona ugcwele injabulo ngenkathi belapha. Basangathanda ukujabulela ukukubona ugcwele injabulo futhi, ngisho nalapho udlula osizini lwakho.
Uma ungazizwa ukulungele ukwenza amasiko akho ajwayelekile, hlonipha usizi lwakho ngokuvumela inkululeko yokuzwa lokho okudingayo ukukuzwa. Sicela ungazizwa unecala ngokudinga ukuba nenkathi yamaholide ekhululekile futhi emnene.
Zombili ziyizimpendulo ezifanele osizini.
Sicela ungazizwa uphoqelekile ukuba wenze noma uzwe noma yini, noma uvumele izingcindezi zikwenze wenze noma yini engakuhloniphi lapho ukhona ohlelweni lwakho losizi.
Abanye abasosizini bangase bafune ukwenza isiko ababejabulela ukulenza nesithandwa sabo njengendlela yokubakhumbula nokubahlonipha, kuyilapho lokho kungase kube buhlungu kakhulu kwabanye okwamanje.
Khuluma nabathandekayo bakho abasasele futhi wabelane ngenhliziyo yakho ngokuchaza indlela ozizwa ngayo. Bacele uthando nokwesekwa kwabo ngesikhathi samaholidi.
Zizungeze ngabazokusingatha okukhulu!
Uma kunebandla eliseduze nawe elineqembu elisekela usizi, njenge-GriefShare noma i-Grief Bites, ngikukhuthaza ngenhliziyo yonke ukuthi uye kuyo.
Kukhona isikhathi sayo yonke into, okuhlanganisa ukufuna isikhuthazo nokusekelwa, futhi uNkulunkulu wethembekile ukukuthwala kuzo zonke izikhathi zokuphila kwakho. Dumisa uNkulunkulu nosizi lwakho.
Vumela uNkulunkulu aqondise futhi aqondise usizi lwakho nobuhlungu benhliziyo, futhi umbuze ukuthi ungawaphatha kanjani amasiko kanye nale nkathi yempilo yakho.
Ezinsukwini ezimbili ezizayo, ngizobe nginikeza imibono yokuthi ungadlula kanjani nje kuphela ngamaholide, kodwa nokuthi ungaba kanjani nokuthula nokwenza izikhathi ezinomqondo ngesikhathi samaholide.
Mema uNkulunkulu, njengamanje, ukuba abe uMngani owamukelekayo noyigugu phakathi namaholide nangezinsuku ezizayo.
Umthandazo:
"Baba oZulwini Othandekayo Onomusa, ngiyakubonga ukuthi akudingekile ukuba ngidlule amaholide ngingedwa. Ngikubonga ngokusuka enhliziyweni yokubonga okujulile ngokuba njalo nami futhi uyangithanda, futhi ungalokothi, ungishiye noma ungilahle.Abba Baba, ngicela ungisize nsuku zonke njengoba ngidlula usizi nobuhlungu benhliziyo yami. Ngisize ngikhumbule ngothando futhi ngihloniphe abantu engibathandayo, ngidedele noma yini ebambe inhliziyo yami, futhi ngibone kahle ubuhle bakho. kanye nezibusiso ngesivunguvungu engibhekene naso empilweni.
Ngiyakuthanda, Nkosi, futhi ngiyalidumisa iGama lakho elingcwele. Egameni likaJesu ngiyakhuleka, Ameni."
Lokhu kuzinikela © 2015 ngu-Kim Niles/Grief Bites. Wonke Amalungelo Agodliwe. Isetshenziswa ngemvume.
Omunye wemibuzo enzima futhi edabukisa kakhulu kososizini angaba nayo phakathi nalesi sikhathi esiyinselelo uthi, "Ngingawagubha kanjani amaholide kodwa ngibe ngikhumbula futhi ngihloniphe abantu engibathandayo okumanje bagubha amaholide eZulwini noNkulunkulu?"
Omunye umbuzo odabukisayo kothile (oshonelwe othandekayo, isehlukaniso, noma ukungqubuzana komndeni) angase abe nawo uthi, “Ngingadlulela kanjani emaholidini lapho ngidabuke kakhulu, futhi ngingajabula kanjani ngamaholide lapho ngikhumbula othandiwe wami kakhulu?"
Amaholide anzima kakhulu kulabo abasosizini olujulile ngenxa yokushonelwa othandekayo, isehlukaniso, noma izingxabano zomndeni noma ukuhlukana.
Abasosizini babakhumbula ngokujulile abathandekayo babo, futhi amaholide anezinkumbulo eziningi; kodwa manje lezo zinkumbulo ezinhle zamaholide adlule zingase zilethe usizi olukhulu.
Amasiko ake athandwa manje abuhlungu futhi ayahlaba ngenxa yokuthi othandekayo akasekho, noma akasazimisele, ukwabelana ngawo.
Ngithole ukudlula ezinsukwini ezinzima futhi ubuhlungu benhliziyo ngamaholide kwenzeka kuphela ngomusa kaNkulunkulu...ngothando Lwakhe lwansuku zonke, usizo, kanye nesikhuthazo Sakhe.
Cela uNkulunkulu njengamanje ukuba akududuze futhi aphulukise inhliziyo yakho, futhi umcele ukuba akuthele ngesikhuthazo njengoba uqhubeka nesikhathi samaholide...isinyathelo ngesinyathelo...usuku nosuku...umzuzwana nomzuzwana...usaga nesaga. Useceleni kwakho futhi uzokuthwala.
Pho onosizi uhlangana kanjani namasiko?
Uma uzizwa ufuna ukwenza amasiko akho ajwayelekile, nakanjani, kwenze...futhi ungazizwa unecala ngokuvumela injabulo. O(aba)thandiweyo wakho ukujabulele futhi ukuthandile ukukubona ugcwele injabulo ngenkathi belapha. Basangathanda ukujabulela ukukubona ugcwele injabulo futhi, ngisho nalapho udlula osizini lwakho.
Uma ungazizwa ukulungele ukwenza amasiko akho ajwayelekile, hlonipha usizi lwakho ngokuvumela inkululeko yokuzwa lokho okudingayo ukukuzwa. Sicela ungazizwa unecala ngokudinga ukuba nenkathi yamaholide ekhululekile futhi emnene.
Zombili ziyizimpendulo ezifanele osizini.
Sicela ungazizwa uphoqelekile ukuba wenze noma uzwe noma yini, noma uvumele izingcindezi zikwenze wenze noma yini engakuhloniphi lapho ukhona ohlelweni lwakho losizi.
Abanye abasosizini bangase bafune ukwenza isiko ababejabulela ukulenza nesithandwa sabo njengendlela yokubakhumbula nokubahlonipha, kuyilapho lokho kungase kube buhlungu kakhulu kwabanye okwamanje.
Khuluma nabathandekayo bakho abasasele futhi wabelane ngenhliziyo yakho ngokuchaza indlela ozizwa ngayo. Bacele uthando nokwesekwa kwabo ngesikhathi samaholidi.
Zizungeze ngabazokusingatha okukhulu!
Uma kunebandla eliseduze nawe elineqembu elisekela usizi, njenge-GriefShare noma i-Grief Bites, ngikukhuthaza ngenhliziyo yonke ukuthi uye kuyo.
Kukhona isikhathi sayo yonke into, okuhlanganisa ukufuna isikhuthazo nokusekelwa, futhi uNkulunkulu wethembekile ukukuthwala kuzo zonke izikhathi zokuphila kwakho. Dumisa uNkulunkulu nosizi lwakho.
Vumela uNkulunkulu aqondise futhi aqondise usizi lwakho nobuhlungu benhliziyo, futhi umbuze ukuthi ungawaphatha kanjani amasiko kanye nale nkathi yempilo yakho.
Ezinsukwini ezimbili ezizayo, ngizobe nginikeza imibono yokuthi ungadlula kanjani nje kuphela ngamaholide, kodwa nokuthi ungaba kanjani nokuthula nokwenza izikhathi ezinomqondo ngesikhathi samaholide.
Mema uNkulunkulu, njengamanje, ukuba abe uMngani owamukelekayo noyigugu phakathi namaholide nangezinsuku ezizayo.
Umthandazo:
"Baba oZulwini Othandekayo Onomusa, ngiyakubonga ukuthi akudingekile ukuba ngidlule amaholide ngingedwa. Ngikubonga ngokusuka enhliziyweni yokubonga okujulile ngokuba njalo nami futhi uyangithanda, futhi ungalokothi, ungishiye noma ungilahle.Abba Baba, ngicela ungisize nsuku zonke njengoba ngidlula usizi nobuhlungu benhliziyo yami. Ngisize ngikhumbule ngothando futhi ngihloniphe abantu engibathandayo, ngidedele noma yini ebambe inhliziyo yami, futhi ngibone kahle ubuhle bakho. kanye nezibusiso ngesivunguvungu engibhekene naso empilweni.
Ngiyakuthanda, Nkosi, futhi ngiyalidumisa iGama lakho elingcwele. Egameni likaJesu ngiyakhuleka, Ameni."
Lokhu kuzinikela © 2015 ngu-Kim Niles/Grief Bites. Wonke Amalungelo Agodliwe. Isetshenziswa ngemvume.
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