Your Post-Break-Up Guide to Being Alright Àpẹrẹ

Date When You’re Ready… Really Ready

There aren’t any hard-and-fast rules about how much time needs to pass before you start dating again. It’s just important that you’re honest with yourself about when you’re ready… really ready.

You’ve probably heard of “rebound relationships.” They’re the relationships you hop into right after a break-up to curb the loneliness and boost your self-esteem. They rarely last, and someone usually ends up getting hurt. You run the risk of comparing the new person to your ex, talking about your ex too much, or leading someone on with whom you have no intentions of dating long-term. So, rather than rushing back into dating post-break-up, take some time to be newly single. Do the work now to ensure you’re ready to do better in your next relationship.

If you're not sure whether you're ready to start dating again, ask yourself some honest questions, like:

●Do you find yourself obsessively thinking about your ex?

●Do you still feel angry or bitter towards them?

●Do you find yourself comparing prospective dates to your ex?

If your answer to any of these questions is yes, then it's probably best to wait a little longer before getting back out there. Once you've reached a place of acceptance and peace, then you'll be in a much better position to start a new relationship.

Some other questions to ask yourself are:

●Have you prayed and received peace about dating again?

●Have you forgiven your ex and yourself for what went wrong in the relationship?

●Have you taken time to heal your heart, pursue God, and find yourself again?

If your answer to these questions is yes, then it might be time to start dating again! First, take some time to heal emotionally. It's important to allow yourself to grieve the loss of the relationship, and this can take time. Once you feel like you can move on, start by meeting new people casually. Don't put pressure on yourself to find a new partner immediately–just enjoy getting out and talking to new people. As you start meeting people and going on dates, pay attention to how you feel. If you're feeling anxious or stressed, it may be a sign that you're not quite ready yet. But if you're feeling excitement and enthusiasm, it's a good sign that you're ready to start dating again. Most importantly, continue to lean into God. He will lead you and guide you in the way you should go when you trust Him with all of your heart.

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