Self-control: meron ka ba nito? 🤬

May mga sitwasyon ba kung saan nagwala ka, na hindi lang basta-basta kang nagalit, kundi parang you were out-of-control? Did someone disrespect you or did you have a misunderstanding with someone you feel close to?

Not every stressful situation makes us lose self- control. Minsan, maaari tayong magalit, pero kaya pa nating kontrolin ang reaksyon natin. Situations become harder when we feel that we can no longer hide our emotions. Puwedeng lumabas ang galit natin sa pagsigaw, pagbagsak ng mga pinto, o minsan, makakasakit pa tayo ng ibang tao.

Interestingly, ang term nating “nagwawala” na ibig sabihin ay nagagalit also seems to picture the loss of self-control. Alam mo bang isa din palang fruit of the Spirit ang self-control (Galacia 5:22-23 ASND)? Good news kaya yon, kasi it means that it’s not impossible to have this.

One important lesson that we have learned about self-control is that it actually means the same as “emotional regulation.” Kung mahirap siyang intindihin, wait lang, ipapaliwanag namin. Kapag iniisip natin na kailangan lang kontrolin ang sarili para magkaroon ng self-control, parang willpower lang ang kailangan, di ba? But the term emotional regulation pertains to the moment when our emotions become chaotic at kailangan nating maghanap ng paraan upang maging kalmado ito.

For example, kapag nagagalit ka, ano ang puwedeng gawin para kumalma ang emosyon? First, identify the feeling: are you angry? Hurt? It helps when you acknowledge the feeling, dahil hindi naman ito masama o kasalanan. Second, what are the ways to calm your emotions? Nakakatulong daw ang mag-deep breathing, or mag-count ng 1 to 10, mag-pray, or mag-journal.

Kapag nagawa mo ito at napansin mong hindi na ganon katindi ang galit mo, it means you regulated your emotions effectively. Try practicing this every day in different instances and you'll see that self-control pala ito.

Isa kang miracle!

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