Our Keys to Healthier Communication in MarriageНамуна

ASK FOR HELP

David: When an issue becomes too difficult for you and your spouse to manage together, it may be time to call on an objective third party to help you figure things out. Every once in a while, all of us can benefit from a mediator that we trust to step in and provide wise counsel. This ensures that both parties are heard and a resolve can be achieved. There is nothing wrong with going to a counselor. There is nothing wrong with confiding in your pastor or your spiritual leader. God has anointed individuals to help you work through your problems when you don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. It is God’s will that your marriage prospers, and you must know that God is faithful to send help in the time of need. 

Tamela and I have always encouraged our friends and family members to seek counseling. We have often reached out to others that we trust (our pastor and trusted friends) to help us with difficult issues in our marriage. The key for me was to constantly tell myself, and to communicate to Tam: We can get through this. It’s only a rough patch. I’m not going to give up on you, and my desire is to strengthen our marriage by any means necessary. 

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

1.  Is it time to seek counseling?

2.  If yes, make a list of a couple trusted and or referred counselors and interview them so you both agree on a choice.