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Living Changed: In Marriage

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Ubunikazi

Sihlale sihlaselwe imilayezo esitshela ukuthi asanele. Amamuvi, inkundla yezokuxhumana, nezikhangiso konke kusitshela ukuthi kufanele sibe ngubani nokuthi yini okudingeka siyithenge ukuze silungise ukuphila kwethu. Silungiselwe ukufuna ukuqinisekiswa ngabanye.

Sifuna abantu bacabange ukuthi ikhaya lethu libukeka kahle futhi bayawuthanda umshado wethu. Sifuna abayeni bethu basitshele ukuthi isidlo sakusihlwa besimnandi futhi bayazise imisebenzi esiyenzile. Siyazikhandla sizama ukwenza nokusho zonke izinto ezifanele ukuze sizuze isicoco “somfazi olungile.” Sicabanga ukuthi uma singathola ukunconywa okwanele, sizobe sesizizwa sifaneleka. Ngeshwa, lokho kusho okuphambene nokuyiqiniso. Uma singawatholi amazwi aqinisekisayo kulabo abasizungezile, kusho ukuthi siyehluleka.

Lokhu kwehla nokwenyuka okusekelwe ekudunyisweni abanye kuholela ezeni. Akukho okungasenelisa futhi kusenze siphelele ngaphandle kokuba nobuhlobo noJesu. Kuphela lapho siyeka ukufuna ukwamukelwa yibo bonke abasizungezile lapho singafunda khona ukubeka umbono kaNkulunkulu kuqala. Yilokho okushiwo ukugxilisa ubunjalo bethu kuKristu-ukuhlala siqine kuYe kangangokuthi singanyakaziswa imibono yabanye.

Uma ubunikazi bethu bugoqwe kunoma yini enye ngaphandle kokuba ingane kaNkulunkulu—njengokuba inkosikazi—kusenza singavikeleki. Lapho senza ngenxa yokungazethembi kwethu, siqapha kakhulu, sesabe, sicasulwe, silawule, noma sihlushwe. Asikwazi ukuba nokuthula uma sihlala silwela ukuthola ukuvunyelwa. Uma singazazi ukuthi singobani ngaphandle komshado wethu, kubangela ukungezwani ngisho nokuhlukana.

Ngokuphambene, lapho siphila njengabantwana bakaNkulunkulu, siyakwazi ukuba sengozini kakhudlwana, sibe sobala, futhi sithembeke. Akudingekile ukuba silwele ukwamukelwa uNkulunkulu ngoba uthando Lwakhe alunamibandela futhi lunikezwa ngesihle. Lapho singabhekile kumyeni wethu ukuba avale isikhala esisezinhliziyweni zethu futhi esikhundleni salokho sivumele uNkulunkulu ukuba eze kuqala ekuphileni kwethu, siyoba nokuthula futhi umshado wethu uyoqina.

Uma ufuna ukuthuthukisa umshado wakho, vumela uNkulunkulu kube nguyena kuphela igunya kulokho oyikho. Hhayi izwe, umyeni wakho, abangani bakho, umamezala wakho, noma izwi ekhanda lakho. UNkulunkulu uhlale ekusukela, ekulindele, elangazelela ubuhlobo nawe. Uyafunwa futhi uyathandwa uMdali wendawo yonke.

Lapho uqonda ngokweqiniso ukuthi uNkulunkulu ukuthanda ngokujule kangakanani—ukuthi wakuhlanganisa ngokucophelela esibelethweni sikanyoko, ukuthi wakwamukela emndenini waKhe futhi unezinhlelo ezinhle ngawe, ukuthi ukhethiwe futhi wahlukanisiwe—ngeke wadinga imvume yabanye. Ngokuqinisekile, kuhle ukuzwa izincomo ezivela kumyeni wakho, kodwa uma uthembele emazwini akhe kuphela, awusoze waneliseka. Bambelela kuKristu ngazo zonke izidingo zakho futhi uzothola ukuzethemba okusha kokuthi ungubani nokuthi ukubona kanjani.

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Mayelana naloluHlelo

Living Changed: In Marriage

Awukho umshado ophelele ngoba umshado uwukuhlangana kwabantu ababili abangaphelele. Kodwa ngosizo lukaNkulunkulu, ungaba nomshado omuhle-hhayi ngokumcela ukuba alungise owakwakho, kodwa ngokumcela ukuba enze umsebenzi enhliziyweni yakho. Lolu hlelo lwezinsuku ezi-5 luzokusiza ukuthi uthole ukuphulukiswa, ukuthula, kanye nokuzethemba kuKristu ukuze uthande owakwakho kahle futhi uguqule umshado wakho.

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