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Day 5: Temptation in Trials

In the intricate dance of matrimony, stress can waltz in uninvited, creating gaps that temptations try to sneak through. I've danced this dance, and I bet you have too. When our marriages yearn for something more, we might be enticed to fill that void in unconventional ways. It could be the allure of an outside partner, the seduction of perpetual busyness, or the fleeting comfort found in material indulgence.

During my own marital journey, I faced the lure of satisfying unmet desires through avenues that would only bring temporary relief. But here's the truth I discovered – the enemy may dangle temptations in front of us, but often, the desire is already lingering within our hearts. He can't lure us into something that doesn't have a foothold within us. Is it a walk in the park? Certainly not. Is it possible to resist? Absolutely.

I had to learn not to open the door to temptation. How so? If I knew I would be tempted to seek out an outside partner, I closed that communication so it couldn't creep through a cracked door. I tried to flee or avoid the temptation before I made a decision that could have eternal consequences for my marriage and myself.

Consider the tale of Joseph – a man of integrity who, when faced with seduction from Pharoh's wife, fled so swiftly that he left his coat behind. Admirable, right? Yet, the lingering question always tugs at my thoughts: Why was he there in the first place? It may have all been avoided hadn't he not met her in the palace alone. One small decision that altered his life. Thank God; He was able to use it for Joseph's good despite his mistake.

You know where you are tempted. You know where you are struggling within your marriage. Trust me. I've been there. It wasn't easy. However, I dearly loved my husband and didn't want to lose my marriage. So, I moved on. The key is to realize it doesn't stop there. Have a consistent plan for when you feel that temptation creeping into your mind and soul. Eradicate it as quickly as you can. Remember your commitment. Remember your spouse. Remember what God desires for you. A loving, God-filled, pure, and fulfilling marriage. Give your marriage a chance. Be patient and wait on the Lord.

Reflection:

Here's a challenge for you: What tempts you? What's your go-to for temporary relief that might not be the healthiest choice? Take a moment to ponder. You cherish your spouse, right? You hold your marriage dear, don't you? Now, imagine the unthinkable – losing it all. Is the fleeting pleasure worth the risk to your sacred bond?