P.I.E.C.E.S: 6 Steps to Healing & Building Confidence After Relationship Heartbreak a 7-Day Plan by Alicia Renee’ RobertsSample

E- Expect the Best

If you’re like me, you have heard “weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning” many times. That scripture is great for quoting when you want to remind yourself that better days are ahead, but in my honesty, when I am going through it, it seems like the weeping lasts for much longer than just one night.

The truth is that there are going to be some days that will be harder than others. Don’t be afraid to cry. Crying is a natural part of the process. Your tears will spring forth life to your desert and refill your well. It can be hard to expect the best and be patient when you are hurting, but trust and believe that better days will come.

When I lost my fiancé and went through a divorce, I was in a state of disbelief and shock for a while. Grief was very much present, and my future seemed so uncertain. I had questions like, “Why is this happening to me?” “Will I ever trust or love again?”

There were many reasons to live in defeat and believe that life as I knew it was over, but I decided not to give up! Although it was tough to see beyond my reality at that moment, I began to expect the best for my future. I believed that God had something better in store for me. It was the confidence in Him that fueled my strength to keep pushing.

So, what can you do to change your mindset and start expecting the best? Here are some suggestions:

• Eliminate doubt, fear, and negative self-talk: Remember, God has not given us the spirit of fear, and we know that we should not live in a state of worry and doubt. How can we entertain doubt and fear, talk to ourselves negatively, and trust God at the same time?
• Change your perspective: If you don’t honestly believe that things will get better for you, why should God make them better?
• Be happy and hopeful: There are many things to be sad about, but we can decide what type of mood we want to be in. Remain hopeful in the Lord and choose happiness.

Reflection:

Christ desires for us to have peace and joy. What can you do to change your mood and outlook on life and create more joy?