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C- Cultivate Confidence

“Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” (Hebrews 4:16 NIV)

You may wonder if feeling confident when your heart has not entirely mended is even possible.

The answer is yes! The key is that it is less about our self-confidence and more about our confidence in God. Your self-confidence may be low if you’ve gone through a troubled relationship. It may even be possible that you never had much, to begin with, and now you are left trying to find yourself. In either one of those cases, your source of confidence and assurance in your time of need will come from the divine. Let God fill in the gaps for you.

Let’s recount the story of the woman with an issue of blood. Mark 5:27-28 says, “When she heard about Jesus, she came up behind him in the crowd and touched his cloak, because she thought, “If I touch his clothes, I will be healed.” This woman’s physical ailment lasted for 12 years. I imagine she was sick, broke, outcast, and crushed in spirit; however, she had such faith and strong confidence in Christ that she believed that if she could touch the hem of His clothes, she would be made whole. She was right and was immediately healed.

So how do we cultivate confidence? We begin by yielding ourselves to God, releasing our insecurities, praying, and sincerely believing He will help us in our time of need.

We then need to turn to ourselves and appreciate who we are and who God made us. When you know that God has a purpose for you far greater than your current situation, you will refuse to allow anyone to bring you down or accept less than you deserve.

Living confidently involves not focusing on what you can’t do but believing you can attain the tools, support, or knowledge to succeed. It is a shift in mindset where you focus less on weaknesses and more on your strengths, less on the struggle and more on the outcome, and less on fear and more on courage.

It takes time and practice to build confidence because you first must believe that you are capable and worthy of greatness. When you believe it, it will begin to show up in your life.

Reflection:

What things can you do to build your self-esteem and create a mindset shift? Where do you need God to fill in the gaps?