Practise Patience

Romans 12:12

“Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.”

Galatians 6:9

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”

All relationships take time to develop, and your relationship with your partner’s parents is no different. It will be one of the most unique relationships you have, especially if things become more serious and the parents eventually become your in-laws. But it might start out a little “rocky,” and that’s okay. The best way to show honor and respect is to be patient with whatever happens during the first meeting.

Be patient if you don’t seem to “click” right away. There are so many reasons you might not feel an instant connection and ease of conversation with your partner’s parents. For one, they are probably highly protective of their child and only want what’s best for them. It’s going to take a little more than a few hours to decide if what’s “best” is you. Through every question they ask and response you give, the parents are trying to “figure you out” in a sense. It’s almost like you’re on a first date with them!

What can you do? Give honest answers. Be kind and responsive. Reiterate how much you enjoy learning about and spending time with their child. And trust that it will only get more comfortable over time. All relationships require trust and building trust requires patience.

You can also practise patience, even if the conversation is “flowing.” Even if things are going really well, it’s important to remember that it’s still the first meeting. You may feel like it’s okay to “spill your guts” if the conversation is easy, but remember that boundaries are honorable too. Your partner’s parents will appreciate your manners and respectful behavior as they learn more about you.

A Prayer for Patience

God,

They say patience is a virtue, and I know it’s something that comes from you. Please help me set my expectations realistically and not get discouraged if things aren’t going smoothly. I pray for the wisdom to create healthy boundaries that respect and honor my partner’s parents while showing my true self in a way that makes them feel comfortable and trust me. I ask that you would soften their hearts toward me so that our relationship can be a positive aspect in everyone’s life.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.