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The Soul: Honoring God and Your Values

This Scripture helps us as Christians when dealing with sexual choices. Rather than feeling guilt or shame, God teaches us that sex is good and it was designed for marriage to bring unity, pleasure, and new life. So when deciding what you’ll do in any sexual situation, ask yourself, "How does this honor God, them, and me?"

• Say you’re feeling lonely, so you want to hook up because it makes you feel better in the moment... ask yourself, "does it honor God, does it honor them, does it honor me?"
• If you’re dating someone but deep down you know it isn’t right, but you don’t want to “end up” single… "does it honor God, does it honor them, does it honor me?"
• Leading someone on because it’s fun and you like the attention… "does it honor God, does it honor them, does it honor me?"

If you’re asking “How far is too far?”, then I would ask what your values are? Over this last week, we’ve explored how God created sexuality and His plan for it. Based on this knowledge you are empowered to make sexual decisions based on your values rather than “rules” or emotions. 

How to make good choices: 

+ Develop your convictions: What is The Spirit telling you in any given situation.
+ Know your values: What do you care about most, and how does this shape who you are as a person.
+ Honor yourself and others: In every situation — sexual or not — we have the opportunity to honour ourselves and others the way God would want us to. This is something we can carry with us into any situation. 

Reflect: 

• What values have you learnt from your parent/guardian about dating, sexuality, independence? Do you agree? 
• What values would you want to pass down to your kids?
• Based on the Scripture in Galatians, it asks us to think of living God's way, what happens when we do it His way? Do you think He is giving you a choice? 
• What's hard about doing it God's way? What makes it worth it to you?