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Helping Children Understand What’s Going On
If you have children, they’re also going to need some help working their way through this family crisis. Older children may already know what’s been happening; younger kids will have sensed stress in the home and will need someone to come alongside them as they deal with feelings they don’t really understand.
It’s especially important to assure children of all ages that they’re emotionally and physically safe, and you won’t allow anything to harm them or threaten their security. Resist the temptation to pretend that nothing is going on or keep your children totally in the dark concerning this serious issue in your marriage. Some parents might try to hush up the whole thing. Others may feel a need to lie about the counseling sessions they’re attending. That’s not a good idea. Honesty is always the best policy – allowing for, of course, age-appropriate language and content.
Whatever you do, handle the topic sensitively and don’t overload your children with unnecessary details. Depending on your children’s ages, you can use broad conversation starters, such as “Mom and Dad are getting help for our relationship,” or “We love each other, and sometimes disappointments and problems happen that God helps us solve through counseling. That’s what we’re doing because our family is so important to us. We want you to know where we’re going, but we don’t want you to worry. Do you have any questions?”
Follow your children’s lead. Don’t give them more information than they’re asking for, but don’t withhold or lie. These are tender and teachable moments, and your children need your reassurance while you’re devoting a lot of necessary attention to yourself and your marriage. If you have close friends, babysitters, or extended family whom your children especially enjoy and feel comfortable with, this is a time to enlist their help so your children are well cared for while you and your husband spend time in personal reflection, conversations, or counseling sessions.
Next devotional in Aftershock series: Your Sexual Relationship with Your Husband.
Previous devotional in Aftershock series: Confronting Your Husband.
For more help, visit focusonthefamily.com/tag/pornography; FocusontheFamily.com/Aftershock; or you can call the ministry’s Counseling Department for a free consultation at 855-771-HELP (4357).
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Your road to recovery is possible even if your husband refuses to repent and your marriage ends. You’re not consigned to lifelong pain or a second-class status. You are as you always have been – a beloved daughter of God. If hope is dawning for your marriage, pursue it! If not, continue in healthy growth for yourself. New paths are ahead even if your husband chooses not to come along.
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