UNCOMMEN: Husbands Part 2Намуна

The Legacy You Leave

1 Peter 1: 15-16 but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, because it is written, “Be holy, for I am holy."

I used to think that married couples who could claim many years of marriage had it figured out. After all, if you’ve been married for 30+ years, you must be doing something right. Not necessarily. I know couples who have been married for over 40 years and have had some of the worst marriages. Strangers living in the same house out of habit and convenience instead of love and honor. They may tell you they are still in love, but their actions say something completely different. 

As Abe Lincoln said, "You can fool all the people some of the time and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time."

You may say all the right things at church or in front of people, but there may be something different going on at home. 

I focus on this because your family sees your marriage a little differently than you. When you were young, your son or daughter looked to you as someone to mimic. They may look at your marriage as something they want to recreate in their own marriage, or they may look at your marriage and want to do the exact opposite because of how dysfunctional it is.

Focus your marriage on God, pray for it daily and invest quality time in building it up. Speak love and truth to your wife and ask her to do the same for you. Spend time in the Word of God together, do marriage studies and encourage each other. Since you are going to leave a legacy for someone, it might as well honor God and be a great one.

Uncommen Questions:

Do you do something that you’d like your kids to mimic in their own marriages?

Do you do something that you’d like your kids to not mimic in their own marriages?

Uncommen Challenge:

Don’t stumble or coast into the last years of your marriage as an example of what not to be to someone. Instead, use this opportunity to really press into your marriage to honor God with a holy union that He has brought together. Be Holy as He is Holy.

Scripture Reference:
1 Peter 1:15-16