UNCOMMEN: Husbands Part 2Намуна

To the I Do and Beyond!

As you will read in Book of Ruth, Boaz was drawn to Ruth so much, that buying a field to redeem Ruth wasn’t even a concern. Boaz wanted Ruth to be his wife, and if that is what it took, he was ready, willing and able to do it.

Now what?

My youngest son just got married some four days ago, and while we all spent over a year planning all the details that go into a wedding, after the “I Do”…now what? There was a sudden end to all the preparations for us, but it was just the beginning for them. Thirteen months of details that will lead to many years of marriage hardly seems like enough time to get ready for it.

My wife and I have been together for 35 years. We are in the thick of the “now what” of it all. We men have a tendency to be drawn to the bright and shiny and flashy stuff. They put chrome on Harley Davidsons and trucks for a reason. It gets our attention. They don’t care about keeping our attention; they just want it long enough for us to buy it. We are so predictable that there are phrases for us.

The 7-year Itch

Mid-life Crises

Middle Age Crazy

Change of Life

The Back Nine

But God wants us to stay connected to our wives from the “I Do” and beyond. What are you doing to ensure that you and your wife are ready for the day/month/year after the I Do?

We were having dinner with an older couple, and I happened to lean over to my wife and whispered, “I love you, angel.” The other woman must have heard me and turned to her husband and said, “Why don’t you tell me you love me?” You’d think this would be an easy win for the guy to say, “Sweetheart, I love you so much.” Think again! He said, “I told you I loved you when I married you. If something changes, I’ll let you know.” That, my friends, is not winning at your marriage. 

That woman may have started off with her soulmate, but ended up with a roommate.

Uncommen Questions:

When was the last time you felt you were winning at your marriage?

If you and your wife were asked if you had a good marriage, do you think she would give the same answer as you?

Uncommen Challenge:

Men, we can do better than having our wives beg for attention and love. You and I were called to be more than that. Speak love into your marriage, invest time studying and growing your marriage and most importantly, pray for your marriage. 

Scripture Reference:
Ruth 4 :1-12