UNCOMMEN: Husbands Part 2Намуна

The Redo

Isaiah 43:18-19 “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.

I was recently watching a movie called “About Time,” and the premise was all the men in this family could travel backward in time. They didn’t really address the time-space continuum as it was more of a Rom-Com. Instead of traveling back in time to kill Hitler or get the Lotto numbers, he would only go tweak moments in his past.

He would identify a moment in his past that he felt put him on a path that he didn’t really want to be on and go back to fix it. When he came back, things had worked out better or at least different. Just because you change one thing doesn’t mean you can fix everything. I won’t ruin the movie for you, as it’s got some good lessons if you want to watch it with your wife.

This got me thinking of husbands and wives who may look at their current situation and wonder, "If I could just go back in time to change this or that." Maybe it’s as big as marrying someone completely different, not getting married at all or saying yes instead of no.

Our passage tells us to “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.” In context, God is talking about Israel’s unfaithfulness, but in our case, it’s a great reminder that we can’t change the former things. Since we can’t, don’t dwell on them. 

Instead, pray for God to give you wisdom and become the husband your wife needs you to be. Ideally, if I were given the chance to go back and change something, I’d like to think I would say, “No thanks, I love where God has me.” 

While no one gets everything right, the best place we can be is in God’s will when it comes to our marriage and the choices that got us there.

Uncommen Questions:

Is there anything in your past that would make you want a redo moment when it comes to your marriage?

Does the fact that you can’t change things impact the type of marriage you have?

Uncommen Challenge:

Instead of having a marriage that would make you entertain the thought of a redo moment, develop a marriage that would make you content where you are. 

Scripture Reference:
Isaiah 43:18-19