Our Sexual OnenessChikamu

Day 1: Our Sexual Oneness

While the world has twisted and subverted sex through perversion and licentiousness, the Church has not done a very good job of representing the God-given gift of sexual intimacy. In response to the world, we, the Church, often take our hands off and label sex as something shameful, and therefore, something we do not speak of! Through the things the Lord has shown us about His sacred gift of sexual intimacy, we have seen hundreds and hundreds of couples gain tremendous hope, freedom, creativity and joy in their sexual relationship. The Lord wants to bring that same breakthrough to your marriage as He has in the lives of countless other couples that have attended a Love After Marriage workshop. As we Christians bring the love of God into our marriage and our sexual relationship, we will see that God’s plan for sexuality inside of marriage is more satisfying and fulfilling than anything the world will ever have to offer.

You may be experiencing some fear and anxiety as we open up about this subject. Your heart may be beating a little bit faster. Some of you may feel hopelessness speaking to you saying things like, “We’ve been like this for far too long,” or “Our sexual relationship is not going to change, nothing is going to help me/us.” You may feel shame or anger and don’t want to discuss this subject at all. These are common feelings, but don't let yourself stay in that place and miss what the Lord has for you. The enemy who has robbed and bound you in these areas, is lying to you. John 10:10 tells us this, “The thief comes to steal, and to kill, and to destroy but I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” If you are feeling or hearing negative thoughts (lies) coming into your mind regarding this subject of sex, walk through the prayer and activity below.

Ponder & Pray: Take some time right now to individually ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind any ways that the enemy has lied to you regarding sex in general or your sex life. Pray through what you hear in the activation below.

Activation: 1. Get some paper and a pen.

2. Wives, write down the negative thoughts and the lies that came to you when you prayed and asked the Holy Spirit to bring to mind what the enemy has lied to you regarding your sex life. Speak them out loud to your husband and then read the prayer below in front of your husband.

3. Husbands, do the same thing in steps 1 and 2 and then read the prayer below in front of your wife.

Prayer: I nail to the cross all thoughts and lies (speak the specific thoughts and lies out loud) that are raised up against the purposes of Jesus regarding the truth of who I am called to be sexually and who we are called to be sexually as a couple. These thoughts are coming to stop me, and us, from pursuing Godly freedom in this area. I break all agreements I’ve made with these thoughts and lies, known or unknown. I turn away from listening to them in the name of Jesus and I command these lies and thoughts away from me. As I command these thoughts and lies away from me Jesus, what is the truth that you want to show me or say to me instead? (Take a moment to listen). Be sure to hold onto the truth you heard from Jesus and continue to declare what He has spoken regarding His desire for your sexual relationship. Jesus will empower whatever truth He speaks.