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Reclaim Your Position In Your Home

One of the areas I used to struggle with is allowing the things I had experienced in my life to shove me out of my position. But as a wife and mother (if we have children), we are to set the tone for our homes, regardless of what tricks the enemy has up his sleeve.

To further explain, there are things we need to do to cover our homes and our families. Being a wife and a mother is the most important job we hold. We need to handle our job responsibly, no matter what life throws our way. Being triggered by something is even more reason to push through and do the things below. So whether we’re having a good day or a bad day, we must be consistent in the following ways:

• Pray through our house frequently (at a minimum weekly).
• Anoint our house and our husband and children with anointing oil frequently.
• Dwell in the shelter of the Most High. How do we do that? By spending time with God daily (through prayer, reading the Bible, and listening to worship music, to name a few).
• Pray with and over our husbands and children daily.
• Verbally break covenant with things we struggle with (for example, anger, lust, fear, anxiety, etc.). The Lord is your deliverer.
• If we notice that we’re triggered by something, do the work to heal in that area. This work may include seeing a faith-based licensed professional counselor.

From time to time, when I find myself out of position, I snap out of it and say to myself, “Girl, get where you’re supposed to be, dwelling in the secret place of the Most High God, and do what you know to do.”

Our positions can’t be dictated by Satan’s attacks. If we continue in that unhealthy pattern, we’re not fighting and we’re handing over our families to the enemy. Remember, what you're fighting for is bigger than you and how you’re feeling that day. If you’re a mother you’re fighting for your children’s future. Keep in mind, similar to how various health conditions can be inherited, the enemy will attempt to pass down unaddressed challenges you face to your children, if left unconquered. Assume your position.

Read and meditate on today’s scriptures and spend time journaling your thoughts and feelings. Conclude your thoughts with a life statement where you speak life to your situation. For example, "Today I’m feeling broken, but I will not always feel this way."