I Stayed: Healing Past Hurt, Betrayal & InfidelityChikamu

Prepare To Take Your Stand

One of the things I quickly realized was that the enemy will try to use what you’re going through in your marriage to dismantle every other area of your life. It can look different for different people, but for some, this could include (1) your self-esteem, (2) your peace, (3) your health, (4) your finances, (5) your relationships, or (6) your belief in God, to name a few. I myself was attacked in almost all of these areas. Now, is every attack we experience from the enemy? No. Sometimes, the attack is coming from us, because we can be our own worst enemy at times. But other times, the attacks are definitely coming from the enemy. In fact, the Bible says in Ephesians 6:12 that “our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.”

So, what do we do? How do we combat these attacks? Ephesians chapter 6 says, “Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.” Notice it doesn’t simply say to “be strong” but it says to “be strong in the Lord.” In times when I didn’t feel strong enough, the Holy Spirit reminded me that I didn’t have to be, because God is strong enough. He is more than able to carry the load. We just have to be willing to surrender it to him.

Once I understood what the full armor of God was, I was equipped to use it so that I could stand firm, and guess what? You can and will too! The schemes of the devil to take you out will not work. The only way the devil can win is if you let him because he has to have your permission. Join me as we learn how to fight God’s way. Hold on to hope.

Read and meditate on today’s scriptures and spend time journaling your thoughts and feelings. What are some areas of your life where you’re being attacked? What are some areas where you don’t feel strong enough? Declare in your writing that you are giving these things to God. Conclude your thoughts with a life statement where you speak life to your situation. For example, "Today I’m feeling broken, but I will not always feel this way."

Keep fighting. You will grow, you will overcome, and you will heal past hurt, betrayal, and infidelity.