Single Shouldn't SuckChikamu

That's me and my best friend, Sierra, on the cover of this devo. Yep, we were living our best life, stoked out of our minds as we prepped to hike that giant rock behind us called Half Dome-- a 15-mile journey that took us an entire day and a near-death encounter with a bear to complete it! But that's a story for another time! My point is, we were in our mid-twenties and decided last minute to pack our bags and head up to Yosemite National park to cross hiking Half Dome off our bucket list. We were single as single gets, and joked we'd be president of the "Bachelor to the rapture" club for life. Though we had days when it seemed like every male on the face of the planet was either a total nerd, Christian F-boy, or simply uninterested, we lived our single-hood to the fullest and knew one day we'd look back on that season and say, "Those were the days."

I wonder if you feel the same or if you're walking through life wishing you were with someone? If you don't totally love being single, believe me, I get it! It's been 6 years since that photo was taken and guess what? I'm STILL single. While I live an incredibly adventurous life, there's still a longing in my heart to be married, one day. I share that to encourage you to not diminish the desire in your heart to be in a relationship, nor overlook the joy of being single. The purpose of this devo isn't to quench or suppress your desire for marriage, but rather to open your eyes to what's right in front of you.

There have been times when I over-glorified being single and other times when I was ready to throw in the towel and go full-on arranged marriage! To quote Charlotte from the great Pride and Prejudice, "I've no money and no prospects. I'm already a burden to my parents and I'm frightened!" You get the point. Now here I am, 30, flirty, and thriving and still learning each day how to trust God with my desire while living the adventure of being single. Psalm 27:13 reminds me He can be trusted, "Yet I am confident I will see the LORD’s goodness while I am here in the land of the living," (NLT). His goodness begins now, not after I find a partner.

If you're bored in singleness, this devo is for you! Through the next few days, we will tackle four different myths about being single and how to break free from the mundane hamster wheel of wishing you were in a relationship so you can fully embrace the life right in front of you. My prayer for you is that you would catch your breath and see your world of relationships through new eyes. I pray God would give you an aerial view as you learn to zoom out and stop focusing on what you don't have. If you're walking through heartbreak, I pray you would find comfort and peace knowing the goodness of God is waiting for you as you trust His perfect plan.