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Profound Mystery: Marriage Lessons From Ephesians

DAY 12 OF 16

Accepting Leadership

“Submit” is a difficult word to hear. It evokes images of failure and impotence; the exact opposite of how most of us would like to live. We think that submitting to someone means becoming vulnerable, giving up our rights, and surrendering our power.

Yet for all of its negative connotations, submission is a word every Christian should know well. To be a Christian is to submit your life to Christ’s authority and His will, even when difficult. 

For thousands of years, Christians have faced emotional, economic, and even physical consequences for their submission. Jesus said, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me” (Matthew 16:24).

Christian submission might be difficult at times, but we can take comfort in knowing that God is good and loving. Even if we cannot fully understand His plan, we can trust that, in the words of Romans 8:28, “all things work together for the good of those who love him.” (Paul wrote those words while sitting in a Roman jail waiting for his day in court.)

But what about wives submitting to their husbands as Ephesians 5:22 commands? 

We know that many men have used this verse to demand a submission motivated by selfishness, pride, and an ungodly desire for control. Their actions had very little to do with promoting the good of their wives, and everything to do with promoting their own agendas. This sinful history has caused many women to resist the idea of submission in marriage altogether.

But the Scripture doesn’t say wives should submit only when their husbands happen to do everything right or when there is perfect agreement. Submission implies a conflict of wills. In marriage, it requires wives to choose to follow their husband’s lead, even if they feel they know better. It can be tough to accept the leadership of another, even if that person has a close walk with the Lord. But in the end, when a wife chooses to accept her husband’s leadership, she isn’t submitting to her husband as much as she is submitting to God.

It’s also important to note that the very next few verses in Ephesians provide a very different context for submission than we see in most marriages. Stay tuned.

Note: God’s call for wives to submit to their husbands should never be used to justify physical abuse or demeaning behavior. A wife’s primary role as her husband’s helper would require her to expose such sin to the light in order to get him the help that he needs. If you find yourself in an abusive relationship please read Responding to Physical Abuse by Dennis Rainey

Pray:
Wife: Lord, Help me to submit to You as I accept and follow my husband’s leadership. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Husband: Lord, Help me to lead my wife in a loving and honorable way. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

For more help, listen to “The Value of Submission” on FamilyLifeToday.com.

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Profound Mystery: Marriage Lessons From Ephesians

Marriage is designed by God to show the world a picture of Christ’s relationship with the church. Why God would use our imperfect marriages to illustrate His perfect love is a mystery, but the implications are clear. How we live behind closed doors matters. This study will examine the marriage principles hidden within Ephesians 4:32 – 5:32 and help you reflect God’s love to a watching world.

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We would like to thank Carlos Santiago and FamilyLife for providing this plan. For more information, please visit https://www.familylife.com/