Living Changed: Through GriefSýnishorn

Feeling Stuck

Do you ever feel like no one understands what you’re going through? Like they don’t know how to comfort you and somehow you end up trying to make them feel better? Or maybe worse, it feels like everyone else has moved on with life and left you behind.

If you’re feeling stuck in your grief, we’re glad you’re here. You’re doing the best thing you can do by turning to God’s Word for hope and healing.

We know from experience how isolating it can feel to lose a loved one, but we promise you’re not alone. Many people have been where you are, including Jesus. He knows what heartbreaking loss feels like too.

The book of John tells the story of when Jesus’ close friend Lazarus died. When Jesus first learns that Lazarus is sick, He doesn’t rush off to save His friend. He waits a couple days to make the trip, and by the time Jesus gets there, Lazarus is already dead. If you’re familiar with the story, you know Jesus raises Lazarus from the dead. But before He does, Jesus weeps.

Lazarus’ death wasn’t a surprise to Jesus. We know this because before He left to see Lazarus, Jesus told His disciples that their friend’s sickness would not end in death. He explained that what they were about to go through would be “for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it.” Even though He knew Lazarus would be okay, Jesus still paused to weep.

God doesn’t diminish your grief. He joins you in it. He sits with you and weeps with you, just like Jesus grieved with Mary and Martha when they lost their brother. It’s not a sin to be sad when you lose someone close to you. It’s a natural, necessary emotion that our God has personal experience with.

When you feel like no one understands you, remember that God does. He is constant and consistent. He will never leave your side. Your grief will never make Him uncomfortable. He will never forget about your pain. He will never move on or leave you behind. He is close, so lean into Him for comfort.

Father, thank you for being near to me when I’m hurting. Thank you for always knowing exactly what I need and for generously covering me in your mercy, especially in the middle of hard times. Please remind me that I’m never alone and that you’re always with me. Help me to reach for you in my lowest moments. You are my comfort and my peace. Amen.