Ngikhungathwe Izibusiso Zami (Ingxenye 5)Isampula

Ukukhuthaza amadoda ezimpilweni zethu kungabasiza ukuthi bakholelwe kubo.

Mhlawumbe usunesikhashana ukulo mshado. Njengokuba ngumama, kungase kungahambi ngendlela amaphupho akho owawucabanga ngawo. Kwabanye benu, akuzange kuhambe kahle nhlobo. Umshado unzima futhi usebenza kangcono uma bobabili abalingani bengene ngo-100%.

Uma ushadile futhi uzabalaza endaweni yokukhuthaza, ungalilahli ithemba. Kuzoba ngcono futhi kube ngcono njengoba unquma ukukhuthaza umyeni wakho. Kulabo abangenabayeni, ikakhulukazi uma umyeni wakho eshiye izingane zakhe, fundani ukwakha izinsizwa zenu zibe abashintshi befa. Umonakalo osusele kuyena akuyona into ofuna bayibekezelele abazukulu bakho. Gcwalisa ithangi lothando lomyeni wakho noma lendodana ngamazwi akho othando nomusa, inhlonipho yakho. Makhe. Mnikeze imijovo yethemba nesibindi, ugcwalise ingqondo nenhliziyo yakhe ngokukholelwa kwakho kuye.

“Ngiyabonga ngokusebenzela umndeni wethu kanzima. Kusho okungaphezu kwalokho engikushoyo ngezinye izikhathi, kodwa bengifuna wazi ukuthi ngiyabona.”

“Umoya wakho ozolile yikho kanye engikudingayo. uNkulunkulu wayazi lapho ekuletha kimi.”

“Ngiyajabula ukuthi unamandla! Bengingeke ngiwususe lowo sofa ngaphandle kwakho.”

“Lapho ungivulela umnyango, kungenza ngizizwe ngithandwa futhi ngaziswa kakhulu.”

KULUNGILE - lezi kungase kungabi izitatimende zakho. Eqinisweni, umyeni wakho noma indodana yakho kungenzeka ukuthi iyehluleka kokuningi kwalezi zindawo ezishiwo, noma ngaphezulu. Nakuba sazi ukuthi akukho esikushoyo okungashintsha inhliziyo, amazwi ethu anolaka ngokuvamile angayishiya indoda izizwa ingakhululekile.

“Cha, akuyona indlela engikwenza ngayo lokho.”

“Sekukaningi ngisho, ngicela wehlise isihlalo phansi endlini yangasese!”

“Kungani uhlale njalo- ___________?”

“Ngifisa sengathi unga ___________.”

“Unonya futhi unesankahlu.”

Lezi zinkulumo ezigxekayo zivame ukuphuma emlonyeni wethu, zilethe ukudangala, ukudumala, kanye nokudumza amadoda ethu. Futhi siyamangala ukuthi kungani abayeni bethu namadodana beba kude futhi bengasakhulumi nathi!

Uma lokhu kukukhathaza enhliziyweni yakho, sicela ucele intethelelo kumyeni wakho, indodana yakho, nanoma iyiphi indoda empilweni yakho. Zehlise futhi umcele ukuthi akwazise lapho amazwi noma izitatimende zakho zimphatha kabi. Qala ukwengeza amazwi esikhuthazo engxoxweni yakho naye nsuku zonke. Faka amanothi esikhwameni sakhe noma ebhokisini lesidlo sasemini. Mthumelele umyalezo usuku lonke ngamazwi nemicabango enomusa, hhayi ngalokho osanda kuphuka futhi odinga isiyalo noma lokho akhohlwe ukukwenza. Khumbula ukumtshela konke akushoyo kuwe. Noma nini uma ucabanga ngento enhle ongayisho, isho!

Izinsuku zobumama zizofika esiphethweni, kodwa ngethemba ukuthi izinsuku zokuba umfazi zizoqhubeka. Nina bomama abangabodwana nizoqala isizini entsha yokuphila. Mthande umuntu wakho manje ukuze leyo minyaka ezayo ndawonye izojabulisa futhi igcwale uthando nenjabulo! Bomama abangabodwana, yakhani amadodana enu ukuze abe nobuhlobo obuhlala njalo!

Omama abashadile: Baba, ngiyazi ukuthi angikwazi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukhuthaza umyeni wami futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuba nzima ngempela ukuthola izinto ezinhle engingamncoma ngazo. Ngakho konke ukunakekela kwezingane nendlu, ngiye ngingabe ngisamnaka, bese ngimfuna ngenkani futhi ngimyala, kunokuba ngimakhe. Ngiyakuvuma lokhu kuwe futhi ngithandazela inhliziyo nengqondo evulekile, ngiziqeqesha kabusha ukuze nginikeze isikhuthazo kuye. Nginike isibindi nokuzithoba ukuze ngivume amaphutha ami kuye nesibindi sokulungisa izinto. Ngiyazi ukuthi uzongikhombisa indlela.

Omama abangabodwana: Baba, mina nawe siyazi ukuthi ukukhuthaza bekungelula kimina njengoba bekunzima ukuthola noma yini enhle engingayisho. Ngithandazela ukuthi ifa eliphukile lesikhathi esidlule lingathwalwa izingane zami. Kwangathi amazwi ami kubo angabakha futhi abakhuthaze, abakhumbuze ukuthi bangobani nokuthi Ungubani Ngabo. Ube nguBaba wabo, ube nguMyeni wami. ( Isaya 54:5) Ngiyabonga ngothando lwakho olungasoze lwaphela.

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