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Kuyo yonke imizwa engangicabanga ukuthi nganginayo, umona wawungekho ohlwini lwami. Umona? Yebo. Ukuqhathanisa? Uh, nsuku zonke. Ukudabuka? Intukuthelo? Ukukhathazeka? Inzondo, yebo? Kodwa lapho ngizwa imfundiso yaleli gama evela ku-podcast eyintandokazi, ngasheshe ngazi yonke leyo mizwelo engangiyizwa ukuthi igxilile emoyeni womona.

Ngiyayizonda imizwa engemihle. Ekuhlolweni kobuntu okubizwa nge-Enneagram ngiwuhlobo luka “7”. Njengo-“7”, uma ngikwazi ukugwema ubuhlungu bemizwa engemihle ngizothola indlela yokukwenza. Ukwenza sengathi abukho kwakunganginciphisi. Ngangifuna ukuthola umnyombo wemizwa yami ukuze ngikhululeke ngempela, ngingamane ngizenze okhululekile. Kwakudingeka umsebenzi othile, ukufunda ukuletha leyo mizwelo engemihle ekukhanyeni nakuNkulunkulu ukuze ilahlekelwe amandla, kodwa umsebenzi wawufanelekile. Ngiyazi ukuthi yingakho ngikushisekela kakhulu ukusiza abanye bathole inkululeko engokwengqondo, engokomzwelo, nengokomoya—ngoba ngizabalaze ngokujulile nobumnyama obubangelwa ukuphila ebugqilini baleyo mizwa engemihle.

Lowo mshikashika ube yimbangela yokuzitholela inkululeko yeqiniso nezohlala njalo. Yinto engifuna wonke umuntu ayibone futhi njengoba ngithola amazinga amasha enkululeko, ngiyazi ukuthi ngeke ngiwagcine kimina.

Uhlelo lokufunda olulandelayo luwuhambo lwami lokuthola inkululeko emoneni kanye nempilo echichimayo evela kuleyo nkululeko.

Uyini umona? Kungani kubalulekile ukuba siqonde ukuthi kusithinta kanjani namuhla? Izwe esiphila kulo liyindawo yokuzalanisa umoya womona. Manje, kunanini ngaphambili, sibheka impilo yawo wonke umuntu ngendlela abafuna kubonakale ngayo—njengoba beyiklama—futhi ukuqhathanisa izimpilo zethu uqobo kungavusa umona kithi. Siphila ngosiko lomona futhi singase singaqapheli ukuthi lowo moya ulimaza kanjani impilo yethu engokwengqondo, engokomzwelo, nengokomoya.

Umona ungachazwa ngokuthi umuzwa wokunganeliseki noma wokucasuka ovuswa impahla yomunye umuntu, izimo, noma inhlanhla. Umsuka waleyo mizwelo engemihle njengomona nokuqhathanisa, kodwa umona uya ngokujula. Umona uthi "Ngifisa sengathi ngabe nginakho." Umona uthi, “Kungani kufanele babe nalokho engingenakho?” Umona uyazonda ukubona abanye abantu bejabule futhi ujabula ngasese lapho abanye bewa. Njengoba umlobi uDorothy Sayers esho, umona “uwukubuka omunye ngonya.” Ingumchithi, umlinganisi omkhulu; ayikwazi ukuncoma, ukuhlonipha noma ukukhombisa ukubonga.

“Umhawu ubolisa amathambo” kusho umlobi wezAga. Kuwushevu enhliziyweni. Inyama yethu iyohlala ngokwemvelo izwa umunyu womona lapho inikezwa ithuba. Kudingeka umsebenzi wamabomu emimoyeni yethu ukuze sinqobe isilingo sokuba nomona futhi sikhululeke ekujabuleleni ngokweqiniso impumelelo yabanye nomusa.

Ukulimala komona kusebenza ngezindlela ezimbili. Ngokuqinisekile awufuni ukuba lo moya womona ukhule kuwe, kodwa kuthiwani ngomonakalo obangelwa umona lapho uqhamuka komunye umuntu? Ngike ngaba nhlangothi zombili zendaba futhi njengoba uqhubeka nalolu hlelo ungase ubone ukuthi umona uyilimaze kanjani inhliziyo yakho futhi mhlawumbe nobudlelwano bakho nabanye. Zombili lezi zenzakalo zidinga ukuba senze umsebenzi othile womoya ezinhliziyweni nasezingqondweni zethu ukuze sikhululeke.

Ithemba lami ukuthi ezinsukwini ezilandelayo uzoba nolwazi, amathuluzi, umbhalo, kanye nokuzethemba okudingayo ukuze uzikhulule emoneni.