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How It Begins: Accessibility

Past generations compartmentalized pornography use into a male habit, or maybe an innocent activity of young, single men. Those preconceptions were permanently shattered by the internet, which has entirely altered the pornographic landscape, making obscene materials widely accessible, affordable, acceptable, and anonymous.

It’s fair to say that present-day pornography bears little resemblance to the material available prior to the Internet era. In the past, gaining access to pornography was challenging. Users who needed a fix had to find some pretext for leaving the house at night and then drive to an adult bookstore or video store, hide their car in a dark alley, and do their best to sneak in and out of the store undetected. Consequently, the onset of addiction tended to be gradual. That’s no longer the case. The rapid availability and increasing novelty of pornography alter the brain’s natural, God-given sexual response in profound ways.

In addition, over the past twenty years, an explosive expansion of internet technology has taken place, providing instant access to explicit sexual sites. As a result, the onset of addiction is more rapid and can become full-blown within a surprisingly short period of time.

Pornography is frequently the precursor or gateway to sex addiction, since internet pornography impacts individuals of all ages and cultures, regardless of personal background, education, or socioeconomic status. The problem is immeasurably compounded when the viewers’ brains aren’t yet fully developed – in other words, in children, adolescents, and young adults under the age of 25.

The younger the viewer, the more traumatizing the pornographic encounter, both mentally and physically. This sets up youth for even more intense and dangerous addictive behavior in the future. You may feel discouraged after reading this, but don’t lose hope! You, your husband, and your marriage can be healed and restored.

Answering the question “Why does he do what he does?” will give you some perspective on the challenges your husband faces. And hopefully, it will encourage you and your husband to get help from a therapist who specializes in sexual addictions.

Next, we’ll look at why it’s so difficult for your husband to stop using pornography.