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BECOMING “THE ONE”
Let’s talk about who the “right” person is for you.
The right person is not someone who was made for you as you are now. The right person is made for the best version of you. That’s certainly true in my case. My wife isn’t the best fit for who I was when we were friends, or maybe even who I am today. She’s the best fit for the person I’m growing into. God promises that “he who started a good work in you will carry it on to completion” (Philippians 1:6). My wife is a part of helping me become who God created me to be.
The reason you want to be very intentional about your “right person” is that if you marry, you’re doing a really ambitious thing. You are choosing to build something that has never been built before, all while taking fire from the Enemy. Who you are building with—who’s fighting next to you—is a pretty big deal.
The person God has for you may not be who you expect. God is going to build something through your marriage one day, and your union will benefit when you each bring different gifts and strengths to the relationship.
The world will tell you to spend all your energy looking for the perfect partner, so we’re often just searching, searching, searching for the right person. Stop looking for the right person. Instead, become the right person.
You become the right person when you submit your life to God and look to Him to transform you. You become the right person as you grow in your relationship with God. You become the right person when you love and serve the people around you.
Becoming the right person—rather than putting all your energy into finding the right person—is a double blessing. Yes, it’s going to benefit your future marriage. But every single day between this moment and the day you walk down the aisle, you are going to benefit from becoming the person God made you to be.
You will only find the right person when you make it your mission to be the right person. You can trust that if you handle what God has called you to handle, He will take care of the rest.
How could you shift your energy from looking for the right person to becoming the right person?
About this Plan
If you feel like you’re navigating the dating world or a current dating relationship without a road map, Stephen Chandler has good news for you: God gives us guidance for finding a good, healthy, beautiful, life-giving, challenging-yet-rewarding, Christlike marriage. This devotional offers direction for the road ahead.
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