Relationship Road MapНамуна

THE BEST WAY YOU CAN PREPARE FOR MARRIAGE

You’ve likely heard Genesis 2:24 read at weddings: “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” But I need you to hear: It’s not half of a broken person (bringing their insecurities, fears, regrets, and hang-ups) joining with another half of a broken person (bringing their pride, anger, and lust).

It’s actually multiplication. Two whole people join to make a whole marriage:

1 x 1 = 1

But two people who are incomplete? Two people who are halves? When they join, they do not create a whole:

0.5 x 0.5 = 0.25

Being whole does not mean you’re perfect. All of us are works in progress. Wholeness simply means you have reached a level of emotional health where you’re not looking for an­other person to complete you but are finding your identity in Christ. Your relationships can only be as healthy as you are.

So, if you’re single and would like to be married, this is a time of preparation. Before you meet the person who will be yours, this is the season to be living well. You’re becoming the person God made you to be. And as you wait in faith, you can have the confidence that—while you’d like to be married—you don’t need marriage to define you. When you are secure in God, when your identity is anchored in Him, then you’re ready to embrace this journey toward marriage. And you’re ready to be all in.

While there is no foolproof plan for finding the perfect spouse, I believe that if you date with intentionality and purpose, God’s got somebody who is going to blow your mind and give above and beyond all that you can ever ask, think or imagine (see Ephesians 3:20).

Mar­riage is one of God’s most profound gifts to us. Dating with the goal of finding God’s person for you can be tricky, but I’m here to tell you that the journey you’re on is worth it. If you follow the road map, you will get there. And when you get there, you need to arrive in good shape. That means you need to check your engine now so that your eventual partner is meeting someone who is whole, healthy, and thriving.

In what ways are you pursuing personal healing and spiritual growth right now?