Identity in Christ

John 1:12-13

“Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God—children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.”

1 Peter 2:9

“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”

The first way to prepare yourself for marriage and to be a godly wife is to find and root your identity in Christ. Rather than finding your worth in worldly things, such as material possessions, success, or physical appearance, you must find your worth in who Jesus says you are. You are a beloved child of God — you belong to Him first and foremost. You aren’t looking for someone else (like a husband) to complete you.

Because the truth is, whoever you marry will let you down, and you’ll also make mistakes. Nobody is perfect. But when your identity is rooted in Christ, you can navigate the ups and downs of a marriage relationship in a Christ-like manner, knowing your guidance and comfort come from Him.

So, how do you establish your identity in Christ?

Understand Your Value Through God’s Eyes

The scriptures are clear about your immense value to God. In Luke 12:7, Jesus says, “Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don't be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.” This verse, among many others, reveals that your worth is not dependent on earthly achievements or physical attributes but is inherent because of God’s love for you. Knowing you are valued and loved unconditionally by God provides a stable foundation for your self-worth and impacts how you engage in all relationships, including marriage.

Live Out Your Calling

Understanding your identity in Christ means recognizing you have been called to live out a unique purpose. Ephesians 2:10 tells us, “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” By focusing on fulfilling your God-given purpose and using your talents for His glory, you find deeper significance and satisfaction. This pursuit of living out your calling not only strengthens your relationship with God but also enriches your life and makes you a more complete individual, whether single or married.

Cultivate a Relationship with Christ

Your identity in Christ grows from an intimate relationship with Him. Just as John 15:5 says, “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” Staying connected to Christ through prayer, reading your Bible, and going to church ensures your identity is anchored in Him. This spiritual connection nourishes your soul, equips you to handle life’s challenges with grace, and empowers you to be a supportive, loving partner in marriage.

Grasping the depth of God's love for you reshapes how you view yourself and impacts every decision you make, including entering into and nurturing a marriage. When your self-worth is rooted in Christ’s unwavering love, you’re empowered to approach marital challenges with grace and confidence, knowing you're fully supported by the One who values you beyond measure.