Finding Security Amidst the Storms: How to Find Your Secure Attachment in God-With-UsНамуна

The Samaritan woman came to the well with the type of ache for love that was cavernous. If she dropped a pebble in the well of her need, it would take a long time to hit the bottom. Her need had been given to her to braid her to others and into the love of the Trinity.

Jesus was waiting for her at the well with a divine appointment and an invitation to allow her need to find His offering. Can you imagine how she must have felt in the presence of His full attention? That must have been a healing of its own.

Jesus sent His disciples away to hunt for bread, creating a safe place for her story and her ache to come to the surface. The two of them were at the well, a strange congregation—one Jew, one Samaritan; one man who was a rabbi; one woman who was living outside the conventions of society; one holding a water skin, but with cavernous need; one without a bucket but with a never-ending capacity to hold her need.

“Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again,” Jesus pointed out, “but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”

Then, after whetting her appetite, He invited her need to the surface: “Go, call your husband and come back.”

“I have no husband,” she told Him.

Jesus replied, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”

Jesus saw the Samaritan woman’s yearning for love and didn’t keep His distance. He wasn’t scared. He wasn’t surprised. He drew closer.

Her need for love had left her life looking like a field hit by enemy fire. One marriage after another had blown up in her face, yet her need drove her to seek the next one. Sometimes people with insecure anxious attachment believe someone else’s desire for them is the answer that will fill the need within.

But Jesus sees your need and does not keep His distance.

He is not scared of your need.

He is not surprised by your need.

He created your need.

Attachment is created because a need is expressed and filled. Your cry becomes the invitation. His response builds trust. When you let your need cry out, He draws closer.

Dear one, let your need become a beacon for God—a runway.