God at the Centre of Your MarriageНамуна

POWER OF OPEN COMMUNICATION IN THE FAMILY (1)

Today I’m addressing men, allow your wife to have some time to talk and tell you everything that she is going through without you replying, without you explaining or defending yourself. She may spend three hours to get everything out, just listen, hear and listen, listen to understand. I can tell you that you may have a defence for most of them but don’t react, just hear everything she has to say and sincerely tell her, ‘I have heard you, and I apologise for hurting you’. As the man, you are the head of the union and the responsibility of making the marriage work is resting 100% on your shoulder; the responsibility to keep the communication flowing is also resting on your shoulder.

Create that time to hear her out; it may shock you to know what has been going on that you are not aware of. Don’t listen to prove any point, don’t listen to make your wife look stupid for saying that, let her be free to express all those points and work at it. Take the ones that you should sincerely work at and work at it, the ones that you feel is a misunderstanding will disappear when you work at those that you should work at.

I have never felt comfortable when I hear a man of God say he has never quarrelled with his wife. That is a sign that one of you has conquered the other because you are two different people. My wife and I have grown into a place now that we can’t do without each other. Everybody around us - friends, family, and our children know that as well. When I look back over the years, I found out that we have discussed many things together, which has produced great strength in our marriage. There are couples that, physically, it seems they have it together, but you know, all that glitters is not gold. I pray that your marriage will not be gold plated, but truly golden.

PRAYER: Lord, I receive wisdom for proper communication management in our home.