God at the Centre of Your MarriageНамуна

MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE FOR YOUR SPOUSE

If your husband does not care or respect your emotions, always hurting you with his words, though a very wonderful, kind man outside or elsewhere, it is simple. More often than not, the matter has to do with sex; you are possibly not making yourself available for the man sexually. Most of the time, when a man is frowning and angry and you can’t explain what is getting him angry; it is a sexual matter.

I will advise you to take him on a weekend that you are doing nothing but enjoying each other sexually. If that one doesn’t change him, then he may need deliverance. Most times, if a nice man is angry with his wife, it is a sexual matter. Most women don’t understand sex as it concerns a man. Delilah put Samson’s head on her lap, where do you put your own husband’s head? Don’t let some other girl put your husband’s head on her lap.

Most of the time when I hear that a man fell into adultery, the first thing I want to know is where his wife was. What did the other woman have that you didn’t have? What led to it? For most of the people under the age of 50, you can survive because of the energy of the youth, but when people grow above 50, age has settled in, they have formed conclusions about issues, they won’t separate but they will live their own separate lives. People that are under 50 want to enjoy their lives and so you work at these things.

For example, my wife and I have finished the work of parenting, so if we don’t have any other thing holding us together, there is trouble. Our marriage is what fuels our ministry; our ministry is not what is driving our marriage. There are couples today that are only staying together because of what people will say if they separate at this level of ministry; it means they are not each other’s priority. Let your spouse be your priority on the physical side.

PRAYER: Lord, I receive grace to be available for my spouse and never to give room to the devil in our home.