Godmothers With Lisa BevereНамуна

7 Ways to Be One

Godmothers aren’t perfect. Just begin where you are. It doesn’t matter how messy your life is—there is something in it that others need. You don’t have to know everything to offer something. 

Here’s some help to get started.

1. Be Aware

Pray and ask God the Father to open your eyes to see your potential goddaughters, wherever they may be. They are all around us. Here is a secret: Goddaughters hide in plain sight, hoping someone sees them. 

2. Acknowledge

When you see goddaughters, respond to them. Recently I was in the ladies’ room and I noticed a young woman looking my way. I smiled. It wasn’t long before she came up to me to share how my books had touched her life, and right there and then, we hugged and connected. Easy. But what if I had looked away or sent the message that I couldn’t be bothered? Without knowing it, I’d be undermining the seeds I’d sown in her life.

3. Be Engaged

Ask, “How can I help?” Some will respond to your invitation; others will not. You are not responsible for their response. You’re responsible to simply offer. Some will be ready to hear from you; others may come back to you in another season. 

4. Be Available

Make yourself available. I have goddaughters I rarely see in person, but we speak on the phone, text and, whenever we can, connect in person.

5. Be Authentic

Don’t say one thing and live another. That’s fake. Goddaughters are not looking for us to be more than we are; they need us to be more than they are. 

6. Be Active

Be engaged on an interactive level. Liking a photo engages with someone’s social platform, which is good, but picking up the phone and calling someone engages them. Think of something you’d be confident sharing, and simply host daughters. 

7. Be an Advocate

We all need people in our lives who encourage us, because discouragement has reached epidemic levels. Part of encouraging others is moving their feet in the right direction. It is confronting what is off course while celebrating what is on track. 

We need godmothers and godfathers to help the sons and daughters learn how to work together rather than compete and fight. As we do this for them, we fill the gaps and leave a legacy.

If you enjoyed studying this plan, I encourage you to dig deeper by picking up my book, Godmothers: Why You Need One, How to Be One .