Sex Drive

How do we resolve the seeming contradiction that God created us as sexual beings and yet many will be single for long periods or even life? How do we live abundantly while mastering our sex drive?

One extremely important reason for abstaining from sex during singleness is to learn to manage your sex drive. Abstinence is a time during which you can train yourself to be in control of your sex drive—that your sex drive would not drive you.

Purity is mastering your sex drive so that it never comes before honoring God or another human being.

• I used to be led by lust until I learned my own value and the value of men. That was when I learned that it was dishonoring to both me and them to use them for my own lust.
• Lust leads us to put our own sexual desires above the other person—to treat the other person as an object to get our sexual wants met.
• Lustful sexual desire is self-serving, impatient, and prioritizes sex over honoring another human.
• Pure sexual desire is not self-seeking. It is motivated out of love—loving another as you love yourself. Not loving that person less than you love yourself. Pure sexual desire is patient. Pure sexual desire honors others. In marriage, pure sexual desire honors your spouse.

Talk with Jesus

• Show me how to invite You into this area of sexual desire. (We don’t need to keep anything from Him. In fact, victory and joy come from bringing His light into all areas of our lives! I don’t want to keep any area of my life in the darkness, separate from Him.)

Prayer: Jesus, I give You lordship over my sexuality. Teach me the difference between love and lust. Teach me how to master my sex drive so this powerful God-given gift is used only to honor and never to dishonor.