Distractions In Your Marriage - Part 2Chikamu

Selfishness

Devotional Content:

Let’s talk about what an awesome marriage is not! An awesome marriage is not built on selfishness, and that may be the toughest obstacle any of us have to overcome. Selfishness can be one of the biggest and most damaging distractions to a marriage.

What is selfishness? To me, it is when I put my wants, my desires, and my needs above Nancy’s. It is when I want her world to revolve around mine. And although this is really hard for me to admit, there are times I think it should. That is just crazy thinking on my part. A marriage can never be built on selfishness.

Sometimes I can think that I have been a pretty good husband and it is her turn to serve me. I can build a pretty good case in my mind about this. The problem is that a healthy marriage does not work that way. A healthy marriage is not one person getting their way at the expense of the other. A healthy marriage is two people who each day purposely seek to serve each other. And amazingly enough, when both the husband and the wife do that, they each end up getting their needs met.

Bottom line: Serving works; selfishness does not. Serve your spouse each and every day. That is an awesome marriage.

Today’s Challenge: Ask God’s help in putting Him first and your spouse second today. Consistently making that your top priority will take care of your selfishness!

Going Deeper:

1. Dr. Kim shares that an awesome marriage is not built on selfishness. In what ways has selfishness crept up in your marriage?

2. Dr. Kim shares that a healthy marriage is not one person getting their way at the expense of the other but rather that a healthy marriage is two people who purposely seek to serve the other. What can you do this week to serve your spouse?

3. Selfishness creeps up when we are not careful. What can you do to be intentional about remaining selfless in your marriage?

4. Pray and ask God to help you serve your spouse and to not let selfishness creep in.

7 Day Couple’s Tech Detox

If we aren’t careful, technology can distract us and pull us away from connecting with our spouse. It’s healthy and helpful to take breaks from technology. Are you ready for a detox that’s not only inspirational but fun too?!

If taking a break is too difficult or doesn’t seem feasible, that’s a good indication that it has too strong of a hold on our life. Addiction to technology is real. A technology detox can help us break free and return technology to a proper place in our lives.

The 7 Day Couple’s Tech Detox resource includes 7 days of challenges, conversation guides and tech free date ideas so that you and your spouse have something fun and connecting to do as you intentionally disengage from technology and re-engage with each other. Learn more here.