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 Lie#3: Marriage is my calling

Girls, you need to get over the idea that marriage is the ultimate end goal. Some of you are so obsessed about your marriage that you lose focus of your life’s purpose, causing great damage to yourself and others.   

Marriage is not the end goal, but it is designed to push you closer to it, when you do it God’s way.

Think about it. Go to school, then college. Do further studies. Find a great job. Get a spouse, marry, and have kids. Is this what life all about? Or is there a bigger picture to it?

No one knows the purpose of a guitar better than its maker; the purpose of a pot, no one can understand better than the potter. Similarly, you are God’s creation, and the purpose of your life comes from Him, and the earlier you discover it, the larger impact your life can have. 

The Bible says in Jeremiah 10:23 (NLT), “I know, LORD, that our lives are not our own. We are not able to plan our own course.”

What is the vision for my life? What is God calling me to do? These are the questions you need to be asking yourself even before you think of marriage. 

Your purpose or calling is bigger than your career, job, or relationships. The stakes are much higher. It is something that God ordained for you even before you are born. 

And once you know your calling, look out for a man who shares a similar purpose so you both can together do what God has called you to do.  The Bible says, "One can chase a thousand, and two can put ten thousand to flight" (Deu 32:30).

 Reflection:

1. Have you ever thought: What is the vision for my life? What is God calling me to do? 
2. What are the steps you need to take in order to prepare yourself to walk in God’s calling?