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Building Trust with Our Wives: A Devotional for Husbands

Building trust in marriage is foundational for the peace and oneness God desires for us. The book of Proverbs, written by Solomon, offers us wisdom that challenges and guides us as husbands. Through his words, we are reminded of two essential ways to cultivate trust: purity and intentionality.

1. Be Pure (Proverbs 5:18-19)

Purity is about more than avoiding sin—it’s about making a deliberate choice to delight in and prioritize our wives. Trust is eroded when we allow our hearts and eyes to wander, whether through pornography, inappropriate conversations, or fantasies.

Solomon warns us that sexual temptation is dangerous and destructive. Instead of fighting it, we are called to flee from it and actively protect our marriages by making our wives the standard of beauty in our lives. When we commit to purity, we demonstrate love, respect, and faithfulness to our wives, restoring and building trust.

Reflect: Are there areas in our lives where we’ve let impurity creep in? How can we actively choose to protect our marriages and honor our wives in thought and action?

2. Be Intentional (Proverbs 24:30-34)

Passivity can quietly undermine trust and intimacy in marriage. Solomon uses the imagery of a neglected vineyard overgrown with thorns to describe the consequences of laziness. Just as a garden requires consistent care, our marriages need intentional effort.

Being intentional means taking the lead in nurturing our relationships, pursuing our wives, and stepping into the roles God has given us as husbands and fathers. This includes dating our wives, discipling our children, and addressing challenges with courage and integrity.

Reflect: Are we actively tending to the “garden” of our marriages and families? What specific steps can we take this week to be more intentional in our roles as husbands and fathers?

Living with Purpose

Trust is built through consistent action. By choosing purity and intentionality, we reflect God’s heart for marriage and fulfill the roles He has entrusted to us.

Let’s commit to these two principles:

• Be Pure: Protect our marriages by guarding our hearts and finding delight in our wives.
• Be Intentional: Invest time and energy into nurturing our marriages and families with purpose.

As we pursue these godly traits, we glorify God, strengthen our marriages, and create a legacy of trust for our children to witness and emulate. Together, let’s ask God for the strength to be the husbands He calls us to be.