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GOD-GIVEN CONFIDENCE

When we take those first few sips of alcohol and the edge comes off, our prefrontal cortex (the decision-making part of our brains) slowly goes offline, so naturally our inhibitions lower and we feel more confident. But then after a few drinks, we may lose focus and say things we know we shouldn’t. Have you ever felt regret over spilling your deepest, darkest secrets or gossiping about someone you care about? I sure have. Lowered inhibitions coupled with "hangxiety" leave us doubting our self-worth and undermining the very confi­dence that we sought alcohol to boost in the first place.

Another thing that threatens our confidence is playing a losing game of moderation over and over. Many women feel like if they can’t just have one or two drinks, something must be wrong with them. But you are not the one woman on the planet who can’t moderate her wine. Anyone can get addicted to an addictive substance.

The next time you’re worried about not having confi­dence without alcohol, plan for every variable. Visualize the entire meal or evening. For example, are you nervous about ordering a nonalcoholic drink? Pick one ahead of time and have the answer ready.

Most of all, remember this incredibly good news: We have an ever-present source of strength and guidance in Jesus Christ. Here are a few reminders of His unwavering support:

• “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea” (Psalm 46:1–2).

• “Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need” (Hebrews 4:16).

• “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or ter­rified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you” (Deuteronomy 31:6).

When I examined my belief that alcohol made me more confi­dent, I realized that alcohol actually eroded my confidence. But here I am now, alcohol-free and more confident than I have ever been. I know my value in Christ Jesus as one of His beloved daughters.

When do you feel most confident? Why do you think that is? What kind of confidence does God offer?