Kids or No Kids? 6 Tips for Having the Talk While DatingSample

Day 5: Tips for the Talk, pt. 4

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’” - Jeremiah 29:11

Here’s our final tip for approaching the topic of kids with care, honesty, and respect; paving the way for a stronger relationship, no matter the outcome.

6. Talk Big Picture Stuff

The decision whether to have kids or not is a huge one. And when you’re looking for a life partner, it is essential to be on the same page about your future.

Think about your dreams. What do you want to achieve in life? Maybe you want to travel the world, start a business, or simply enjoy a peaceful home. Share these dreams with your partner. Understanding each other's goals can help you see how children might fit into your future.

Your job goals are also important. Talk about your careers and how they might change if you decide to have kids. Will one of you stay home, or will you both keep working? How will you manage work and family time? Discussing these things helps you plan together and see if your visions align.

Another big topic is how you want to live. Do you both want to live in the city or would you prefer the countryside? What kind of lifestyle do you imagine for yourselves? These decisions impact how you might raise a family and where you want to settle down.

Money stuff is crucial too. Children are a blessing, but they also come with financial responsibilities. Talk openly about your finances. Are you both savers or do you like to spend? Do you have a plan for saving for a child's education or other expenses? Being honest about money helps you prepare for the future and avoid surprises.

Remember, God wants you to have a strong and loving relationship. He wants you to talk about these big-picture things with care and honesty. Pray together for God's guidance. Ask Him to show you His plan for your lives. Trust that He will lead you in the right direction.

By talking about your dreams, job goals, lifestyle, and finances, you can make a more informed decision about having kids. This helps you and your partner understand each other better and build a stronger relationship.

In the end, whether you decide to have kids or not, remember to keep God at the center of your relationship. He will guide you and help you make the best decisions for your future together.

We invite you to join us on Upward if you are a Christian single looking for a meaningful relationship.