Identity in Christ

John 1:12-13

“Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God—children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.”

1 Peter 2:9

“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.”

The first way to prepare yourself for marriage and to be a godly husband is to establish your identity in Christ. The world has many opinions on what makes a man “husband material.” But the most important thing a man can bring to the table is a strong identity rooted in Christ. A strong faith can serve as a guide throughout your journey of implementing Christian values into your daily life as you become one with your partner.

So, how do you root your identity in Christ?

Recognize Your Value in God's Eyes

John 1:12-13 emphasizes the profound truth that those who accept and believe in Christ are given the right to become children of God. This identity as a child of God is foundational; it surpasses any worldly status or achievement. It roots your sense of self-worth and purpose in something unshakeable. Recognizing your value in God’s eyes means understanding that your worth is intrinsic and eternal, not conditional on worldly measures of success like your job or how much money you make.

Live Out Your Purpose

Ephesians 2:10 says, "For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." Each individual has a unique purpose designed by God. Living out this purpose involves aligning your actions, decisions, and relationships with God’s will and guidance. By doing so, you bring honor to God and enrich your own life and those around you, including your future spouse. Fulfilling your God-given purpose cultivates a life of significance and service, which is essential for a godly husband.

Cultivate a Deep Relationship with Christ

A deep, personal relationship with Christ is crucial for grounding your identity in Him. Just as John 15:5 describes the importance of remaining in Jesus to bear much fruit, staying spiritually connected through prayer, worship, and scripture study keeps you rooted in your identity as a follower of Christ. This relationship empowers you to lead your future family with wisdom, love, and strength. It also equips you to face the challenges of marriage with grace, always relying on Christ’s example and teachings as your guide.

Rooting your identity in Christ sets a solid foundation for every aspect of life, including marriage. It shapes you into a man who leads with love, lives with purpose, and loves with a depth that reflects the heart of God.