Overcoming HurtSample

Connect with God and Others

A crucial step in seeking healing from emotional pain, whether from bigW or little w wounds and lies from the Enemy, is seeking connection.No matter what you faced in the past or are facing now, you are not alone. You were not meant to be alone. You were made to thrive, created in the likeness of God with infinite worth, designed for healthy connection with Him and others. You were designed to experience the assurance of safety, to know that everything will be okay.

We need Jesus’ divine power to restore us. He knows exactly what we need. Talk to Jesus about what you experienced. Ask Him for His comfort. Ask Him for His healing. He cares so much about you. Healing is a process. It takes time, but I want you to know that Jesus can heal you from hurt. He’s done it in my life, and I am convinced He can do it in yours, as well.

We are hurt in relationships, and we heal in relationships. Wounds are caused by things people have said and done to us, or by not receiving the things we needed from people. For example, sometimes wounds are caused because people did not encourage or accept us. We need new experiences with people who will accept us, love us, affirm us, be there for us, show up for us, and demonstrate the love that God has for us in Christ.

Let me encourage you to share the losses and pain you are experiencing with safe people. Interacting with others releases dopamine and oxytocin in our brains, leading to a sense of connection and satisfaction. It also affirms the reality that we are not alone, that we are understood. Text or FaceTime a friend or loved one. Go for a walk with someone you know. Schedule a meeting with a therapist, coach, or mentor. Ask professionals for advice on how to find safe people. Ask God to send the right people and resources your way.

Remember, we need one another. We are part of the body of Christ, and are meant to help one another (1 Corinthians 12:25–27). Hebrews 10:25 instructs us to “not neglect meeting together,” because of how important relational and spiritual connection is for each of us.

God, You made us for relationship with You, ourselves, and others. Help me to connect with safe people.