Living a Servant MarriageSample

 Becoming A Servant 

Adam had to undergo a miraculous process of becoming a servant before he was gifted a woman and a marriage. 

God was moving him from just meeting his own personal needs to also meet the needs of others. Adam was not in the Garden for himself. He was created to serve—to serve others. Though Adam had a mature body, he was not as mature as the Father who lived a servant lifestyle in heaven with the Son and Holy Spirit. So, just as any father starts his child out with simple and then increasingly complex tasks as the child develops, the Father began creating the DNA of a servant in Adam the only way it can be created; by serving. 

Adam had to accept responsibility for the needs of the animals all day long. People also have needs all day long, whether at work or home. It was vitally important for Adam to see the needs of others as opportunities to serve; not as impositions or inconveniences that would keep him from doing what he thought he might be entitled to do at any given moment. 

These needs were brought to Adam every day, day after day, for a very long time. Serving was not just what Adam did, it was becoming who he was. 

Through a process, God was imparting to Adam the ability to be responsible with the needs and identities of those around him. This was training to prepare Adam for the final stages of God’s creation; a woman, and then marriage. 

This servant process is so critical. Had Adam not become a servant prior to marriage, he would have been totally ill-equipped to handle the needs of a woman, the needs of marriage, and the needs of a family. This foundational training is what God knows we need to be successful in marriage. 

If we come at our marriage to be served instead of to serve the other person, we are setting ourselves up for significant, unnecessary pain. If a man or woman is not a servant, he or she is not ready for marriage. If there is not a servant at the very core of who you are, you have totally missed why you are here on planet Earth, and why you are married and received a family. Each responsibility is designed to expand your ability and capacity to serve with excellence and a great attitude. 

“But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man” (Genesis 2:21-22, NIV).