Blending A Family 40 day DevotionalSample

A Wife’s Need for Security 

As stated in Ephesians 5, women need to feel loved, even when they are not acting in a love-able manner. In his book, “Marriage on the Rock” Jimmy Evans (marriagetoday.org) describes a wife’s #1 need is security and safety. 

Security and safety to each woman is different, but consider that your wife needs:

•  Physical safety, knowing she and her children have no fear of bodily harm,
•  Emotional security, knowing she and her children are highly valued. 

A woman should have no fear of angry outbursts or belittling words. She knows she is highly favored and valued by her husband, feels financially secure, and her dreams, goals, and opinions are valued. She senses her husband is totally committed to their marriage for life. 

“Husbands are the ‘initiator of the good will of the marriage and family’” – Jimmy Evans

Husbands are to take care of their wife and meet her needs and dreams in the same way that Jesus meets our needs and dreams.

A Woman’s Perspective

During a marriage home group, we asked wives what makes them feel loved (safe and secure). They said,

• Being listened to and understood.  
• Value her opinions. 
• Do what you say – (husbands) keep your words and promises. 
• Appreciate her for everyday things. 
• Please do not correct her or in other ways embarrass her in public, even if she’s wrong. Save that discussion for when you’re alone. 
• Support her in front of the children.  
• Don’t choose one child over the other. 
• Romance her.

Suggestions:

Husbands, take time and ask your wife what makes her feel loved. Write her words down.

Give compliments to your bride that she is beautiful and appreciated by you - leaving cards, love notes, taking her out on date nights, etc.. 

Treat your wife as your best friend.

Our Prayer for you:

Almighty God, we ask You to help the couple reading this to grow together and appreciate each other. We pray the husband embraces his wife in the same way You embrace Your Bride (us). We thank You Lord for Your “gift” of marriage, and Your loving care for this family. In Jesus’ Name.

Copyright 2019 Moe and Paige Becnel @ Blending A Family Ministry