The “How?” pt. 1

1 Thessalonians 5:17

“... pray continually…”

Dating with intention is often easier said than done, especially when the world emphasizes casual hookups and instant gratification. But by staying true to your values and prioritizing what matters most, you pave the way for more meaningful and rewarding relationships.

Here’s how to do it, part 1:

Pray Regularly

Praying regularly is an essential part of dating with intention. It's not just about asking God for a good partner but seeking wisdom, discernment, and guidance in your dating life. For instance, you might pray for clarity when deciding whether to enter or continue a relationship or for strength to uphold your boundaries.

Praying also helps you stay grounded and focused on what's truly important in a partner beyond the surface level. It invites God into your relationship decisions, ensuring that your actions align with your faith and values. Praying can be a source of comfort during uncertain times in dating, reminding you that you're not alone in your journey. It’s about creating a continuous conversation with God, sharing your desires, fears, and decisions, and listening for His direction.

Set Clear Expectations

Setting clear expectations at the start of a relationship can prevent misunderstandings down the line. For example, if you know you're dating to find a spouse, communicate this to your potential partner early on. This way, you can ensure you’re on the same page and are looking for the same things.

Being upfront about your expectations also respects both your time and the other person's, helping you avoid investing in a relationship that doesn't align with your goals. It fosters an environment of honesty and trust from the beginning, providing a strong foundation on which to build. Setting clear expectations is not about making demands but rather sharing your vision for the future and understanding if your paths align. It's a critical step in cultivating a growing and thriving relationship.

Today, take a moment to reflect on your current approach to dating. Are you incorporating prayer in your dating decisions? If not, set aside some time today to pray about your dating life. Ask God for guidance, wisdom, and discernment in your relationships. Additionally, think about your expectations for dating. Are they clear in your mind, and have you communicated them to people you are dating or considering dating? Write down what you're looking for in a relationship, and consider how you can start conversations around these expectations to make sure you’re dating with intention.