Building real relationships

People spend hours daily on social networks like Facebook – in many cases because they’re lonely. Now, there’s nothing wrong with interacting with others this way. Social media offers one of the greatest tools the church has ever had for reaching the world with the gospel. But in a day when it’s getting easy to neglect real relationships, let’s remember why we’re connecting with others in the first place. One author says: ‘Life is so much richer when we have friends with whom we can share our joys and troubles…Unfortunately, loneliness remains a major problem and source of pain for many. But none of us need become resigned to loneliness; [it’s]…“treatable,” if not actually avoidable.’ Real relationships aren’t built by posting updates or tweeting and re-tweeting the most thought-provoking quotes. It takes more time than that. The greatest social networking involves meeting someone’s needs in a way that never would have happened without a one-on-one connection. That’s what Jesus did. Most of His public ministry was spent pouring Himself into twelve men who, in turn, went out in His name and poured themselves into others. The Bible says, ‘Having loved his own who were in the world, he now showed them the full extent of his love.’ The psalmist spelled out how many people today feel deep down: ‘No one is concerned for me…no one cares’ (Psalm 142:4 NIV). To meet people’s needs, you have to get ‘up close and personal.’ That’s what Jesus did, and He’s your example.

Prayer Point

Father, I thank You for so many different options enabling us to connect with one another. Still, amid the ease and convenience they offer, I pray that I will never neglect the benefits of face-to-face relationships. Please help me to reach out to others who may also be longing for a meaningful friendship. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Dobson, Dr. James, Dr. Dobson’s Handbook of Family Advice (Eugene, OR: Harvest House, 1998), 167.