What is Your 5-Year Plan?

Proverbs 19:21

“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.”

Proverbs 3:5-6

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

Life moves quickly. And you want to make sure you’re getting into a serious relationship with someone with similar goals, plans, hopes, and dreams as you.

If your 5-year plan is to save enough money to take time off work and travel across Europe, and they plan to spend the next five years moving up at their company, buying their first home, and putting down roots, there’s a disconnect.

It doesn’t mean a long-term relationship can’t work. It does mean it’s time to have a more serious conversation about whether or not you share a similar vision for the future. All relationships require compromise, but you shouldn’t have to compromise so much that you’re no longer living a life you love or pursuing the things God has placed on your heart.

Following the call of God in your life is and always will be the most important thing. And you can trust Him to provide a partner who will support and champion you in your calling.

You’ve likely heard it said that “timing is everything.” But what’s more important than timing is to be open to God’s purpose. If God’s plan is for you to marry someone, marry them you shall. If He’s calling you to serve as a missionary overseas, and that means ending a relationship with someone you care about, it’s the right thing to do.

So, before you get too serious about someone, talk to each other about life goals, passions, and where you believe God is calling you. And trust that God will guide you in the right direction, whether that be to pursue a long-term relationship or go your separate ways.

Questions to Ask:

Where do you hope to be in life five years from now?

What do the next five years look like for you to get there?

What is one thing you feel like God is calling you to do?

What are you doing now to pursue that calling?

How do you see me and our relationship fitting into your vision for your life?